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Wedding dress dilemma

Jen, on March 7, 2021 at 2:06 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 9

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I bought a wedding dress online from lulus. It was $88 dollars and it has 98% of the things I want. It arrived, I tried it on and it's HUGE. That's to he expected since I'm 5 feet tall and 98 pounds. I really do like the dress. It's almost perfect to what I love and the price is killer. I showed my future mother in law and she said it was nice but told me to return it because it's big and go dress shopping to find "a real wedding dress." It is a real wedding dress! She keeps telling me "go to a bridal salon, try on dresses. It will be fun. Maybe you'll find one you like better." She said they have no problem putting out a bunch of money towards the wedding but the problem is I don't want to and she's not listening. Haha.

I don't want to go to a salon and find a dress I love that is a few thousand dollars, when I have a dress I like a lot (like 98%) that is cheaper where we can spend the money elsewhere.
Am I crazy for that?
*I'm returning the dress in the time frame I have, gonna go look at dresses and if I don't find anything, I will 100% order that dress again.
She doesn't quite understand why I don't want to spend a fortune on the wedding, even though we're not using our own money.

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Latest activity by Mrs.a, on March 9, 2021 at 7:13 AM

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Michelle · on March 7, 2021 at 2:15 PM
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If you love the dress, exchange it for a smaller size. Set boundaries now and maintain them because she will walk over you if you don't , dictating your future life plans as well. Repeat no as long as you have to. When someone is paying for the wedding, they make the final decision. So if you want to make your decisions, you need to give all the money and for it with money between you and fiance.
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Melle · on March 7, 2021 at 2:26 PM
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I think it’s perfectly fine to not want to go dress shopping when you’ve found a dress you like. Especially because now a days a ton of people skip the bridal salon experience
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Katie · on March 7, 2021 at 2:48 PM
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If you love the dress stick with it. If you go dress shopping all it will do is confuse you and cause you to have dress regret. Then you might end up spending way more than you wanted to. You don't have to go to a bridal salon to find a wedding dress and you don't have to spend hundreds either for it to be a wedding dress. I'd tell her that you found the perfect dress and are absolutely in love with it. And that you have absolutely no interest in looking at more dresses.
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Master July 2019
Hannah · on March 7, 2021 at 3:06 PM
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If you already found the perfect dress, either return it for a smaller size (if possible) or take it to a seamstress to get it taken in (may end up paying more for the alterations than what you paid for the dress, but it would still be cheaper than a gown at a bridal boutique).
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Alyssa · on March 7, 2021 at 3:32 PM
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On a Reddit AMA a seamstress who did lots of wedding dresses said Lulu's would cost way way more than the dress is worth to alter. Could you try azazie and have one custom made to fit you and have everything you want?

But obviously don't go dress shopping just because she wants you to.
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Master April 2021
Mrs. Spring · on March 7, 2021 at 9:30 PM
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Im with you! I purchased my $80 dress online as well.
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Ty · on March 7, 2021 at 10:07 PM
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Me too! I bought a dress online and didn’t go dress shopping— nor did I show anyone except my MOH. People have their own opinions; and will make you second guess your choices.
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Kylie · on March 8, 2021 at 9:00 AM
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I do not believe in submitting to wedding pressures from others. I really do think your MIL just wants to make sure you don't regret not having this "bridal" experience. I don't think you should give into her if you're set on your dress, but I do think this sounds like it's coming from a sweet place!
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Mrs.a · on March 9, 2021 at 7:13 AM
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I would pay to have it altered if you love it that much and at that price why would it matter if you spend a few hundred on alterations? Other dresses are going to cost more and still require alterations.
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