Wedding Dress Code- Can You Ask Guests Not to Wear White?

My sister in law were going to show up in white, until I told her she will not be allowed in, I'm personally going to attach a small note (like a RSVP card) to my invitation.

I wouldn't add it, it seems to suggest that you believe that your guests need a crash course in etiquette.. but I've been to a wedding, my cousins' actually, where the mother of the groom wore a white wedding dress (there was no doubt, it was definitely a wedding dress) and my aunt paid the waitress 100€ to spill red wine all over that dress... She did it. So there are other ways to deal with it... Otherwise, if it's a simple white dress, it really wouldn't bother me

The diversity of opinions on this forum is fascinating to me. And everybody thinks they're right☺️ Let me ask, do you care if someone wears white? If so, do you think your guests know that you don't want them to wear white? If not, then put it on there. You have to just know your guests. If you don't care, then don't add it. Personally, I don't give a sht what people wear. I have guests coming who don't own anything other than jeans. And if aunt Brenda thinks a white dress would be pretty, then more power to her!

View Quoted Comment Completely agree with this. Everyone I have talked to translates that to be “don’t wear a wedding dress” which is a given and no one will do unless they are very spiteful. Plus if something is 30% white such as a background for a pattern, that is perfectly acceptable and no one will assume you are trying to upstage the bride.

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Nooo, you can't tell grown adults what to wear to your event.

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I'm not sure everyone will know nowadays just based on the stationary. i once received pretty extensive invitations that made it seem black tie or formal but on the wedding website they mentioned they wanted it strictly casual. It cant hurt to put the type of attire and im sure if they are polite they can mention the no white. I put no jeans on mine

I wouldn't bother unless you've invited Kelly from The Office to your wedding

I have set up a dress code for my guests because different cultures come together and we want a formal dress code. I also neatly indicated that I would like no white / cream colored clothing. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

The opinions here all over the place lol Bottom line it’s your day and you should put whatever the hell you want on your invites. Some people are from different cultures or have no experience with attending weddings so they may not know proper attire edicate. I think it’s really important that you state a dress code. You can’t automatically assume people know. I will be including it on my invites. If people think it’s rude oh well that’s their problem!