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Cheyenne
Savvy December 2020

Wedding dress bad omen or should be fine!?

Cheyenne, on April 14, 2020 at 10:05 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 19
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I bought a wedding dress 5or 6 years ago it’s been in my closet. I bought the dress for my wedding with my ex husband well right before the wedding we broke up the dress has been in closet ever since well me and him got married a year later. I didn’t wear that dress I wore a different one. We Divorced 3 years ago because he’s a cheater. I’m getting married again to the most wonderful guy. I asked what He thought bout the dress he said not to buy a new one to save the money and wear that one. I can tell it bothers him a little bit. What should I do? Is it a bad omen now? Or should I wear the dress it’s gorgeous but I’m not sure what to do.

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Latest activity by Courtney, on April 18, 2020 at 1:18 PM
  • Courtney
    Super September 2019
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    It’s up to you but I wouldn’t wear it, especially since you said it bothers your fiancé. Clearly there’s memories attached to it or you wouldn’t think twice. There’s plenty of options for affordable gowns so I don’t think buying a new one would break your bank. You could maybe sell it to finance buying a new dress!
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  • Futurewifey
    Dedicated July 2020
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    If it bothers him I wouldn't use it. I would suggest that you sell it and with that money you buy a new one so it isn't a big expense off your budget. Don't think it's a bad omen or anything but just out of respect to your future husband
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  • Cheyenne
    Savvy December 2020
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    I should add my mom bought the dress and since I haven’t ever worn it she has been very bitter bout it. So selling and buying a new one would probably be a fight with her.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I’m not really superstitious, but you obviously had someone else in mind when you purchased that dress. I would have been hurt to know that my wife married me in a dress that was intended for a wedding with someone else.
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  • Jess
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    I would start fresh with a new dress! I personally wouldn't want to wear a dress that was meant for a different wedding. Think about your photos too, do you want to keep seeing that dress and be reminded of bad memories from your previous marriage forever? Check out stores like BHLDN (that's where my dress is from). You can find gorgeous dresses without breaking the bank.

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  • Molly
    VIP September 2020
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    Sell that dress and buy a new one Smiley smile

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Absolutely buy a different dress. You can call up local bridal shops (when reopened) and find out when they have sample sales, or David's bridal has some less expensive dresses.

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  • Cheyenne
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    I should add my mom bought the dress and since I haven’t ever worn it she has been very bitter bout it. So selling and buying a new one would probably be a fight with her. How would I handle that?
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  • Futurewifey
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    I see, completely understand that point! Do you think including her while choosing the new dress and explaining your reasons of why you're not using the other one would help?
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  • Cheyenne
    Savvy December 2020
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    No I don’t she is very unreasonable and would probably more than likely blow it out of portion.
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  • Samantha
    Expert October 2021
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    Or, you can think of it as the dress you wanted to wear when marrying the Love of your life. Your ex wasn't that person, you didn't wear the dress. You saved it all these years for the right moment. 😊
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  • Cheyenne
    Savvy December 2020
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    I thought bout using the dress but having it modified or changed a little if that makes since. I’m not sure if people can.
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  • Samantha
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    You can definitely have your dress altered. Many brides do. Some even incorporate pieces of their Mother's or MIL's dresses ie lace or other embellishments. Important question is, do you feel beautiful and confident in your dress?
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  • Cheyenne
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    I do love the dress. But when I put it on idk how to feel
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    Buy a new one. That dress was bought with the intention of marry someone else. You need a new dress for a new husband. Plus, at 5-6 years old, I'm sure styles have changed.

    As far as your mother goes, I would remind her it is your wedding, not hers. You can wear whatever dress you please.

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  • Lena
    Devoted May 2021
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    Buy a new one. If a man says it bothers him a little bit...it's a lot. I would try to sell the one you have for some extra cash. Smiley smile

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    Master October 2021
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    I’m not sure if it’s a bad omen as much as it sounds like it could be a bad decision. I personally wouldn’t wear a dress even I picked out to marry someone else especially if it were to make my FH uncomfortable. I would try to sell it and find a new dress that is special for the occasion. As for your mother, that depends on your relationship with her. I would be frank and honest with my mom as I always am, even if she doesn’t agree with or like my opinion.
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  • Samantha
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    What you feel and what you think you are meant to feel are 2 different things. At the end of the day it's a dress. In my experience men tend to say what they think. If he isn't bothered then maybe you are bothered? Maybe he's right, maybe that money can go towards the honeymoon, get an upgrade. Either way it is about you and how you actually feel as opposed to what you think you should feel.
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  • Courtney
    Expert July 2020
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    I think if it bothers him a bit , you should just get a new one. I understand you didn't wear it , but it bothers him. He's going to be the one youre marrying , not your mom. Yes it may hurt her feelings, but would you rather please her or him? You could always sell it and find an affordable dress or if you really want to keep it , make some major alterations to it so it looks different. These are just some options! Hope they help ☺️
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