Let me start off by saying I’m an indecisive person by nature. It’s my biggest flaw. I know it and my fiancé does too! I knew it was going to be hard on me going wedding dress shopping, because I always second guess myself or want to make changes after I do or buy something. My fiancé and I had a conversation about this after I booked the appointment and how I probably wouldn’t be saying yes to the dress that same day because I am so indecisive.
Skip forward to my wedding dress appointment. It was very different from what I was expecting. I had no idea what I wanted or the style I was interested in. I knew I wanted something with lace, but beyond that everything was foreign to me. I had high anxiety going in knowing this was going to be hard decision for me to make, but also not knowing what I wanted was hard. I didn’t come prepared, which I now regret. I didn’t look at wedding dresses beforehand, not even the ones the place I was shopping at posted on their Facebook or Instagram account. They even asked if I had any pictures to show them for inspiration. Normally, I’m more to related but I planned on coming into this with an open mind, so they didn’t pull just that one style. I was worried they would only show me that style I said I liked based on a picture, but something else might have been better and I didn’t get the chance to try it.
Well, they had pulled some beforehand based on a questionnaire. I tried one on and had to tell them what I liked and didn’t like about it. From there they would pull others based on what I was liking. The 7th or 8th dress I tried on I really liked. It was my favorite out of all the ones I had tried on so far. All of the others were pretty , but they had something I didn’t like. This one I liked. I felt good in it. It was pretty. After that I kept comparing all the other dresses I tried on to that dress by saying I like this one, but I still like that other dress better.
I tried on about 12 dresses in 2 hours. I thought there would be way more I would be trying on. 12 didn’t seem like a lot out of all the dresses their shop had or I would get to look through and choose which ones looked like something I would be interested in, but they pulled the ones based on my responses. We narrowed down to 4 favorites, and I ended up saying yes to the one I kept comparing others to. I can’t say I felt that feeling that people say you get. I never felt like this is my dress. I just liked it better than the others. A part of me felt pressured to say yes that day and I was even looking in the mirror thinking, maybe this is the dress. But I don’t think I ever truly felt what people talk about. I think that’s a part of my Indecisive nature. Maybe I’m not the type of person who will get that feeling. The girl helping me try on dresses even said not everyone gets that feeling and that’s ok.
So I put down a large deposit and signed a contract. What do you know, my indecisiveness kicked in that evening after seeing the pictures my party had taken of all of the dresses and after looking at that bridal shops Facebook page and seeing all of these pretty dresses that I didn’t try on. I keep thinking, maybe I wasn’t shown “my dress” and that’s why I didn’t get that feeling. Maybe I answered something wrong when they were asking me what I liked or didn’t like about the others which made them not bring out “the dress” as if there is another dress because I didn’t feel that feeling. Maybe I shouldn’t have said yes. Maybe I should have gone home and thought about it and made a decision after having time to myself. Maybe I should have gone to other shops to see variety. Maybe maybe maybe. It’s too late now. I can’t go to another shop. I signed a contract and put a large deposit down. I’m wondering if I need to contact my shop and ask them if I can come back and try on more just to make sure this is the one.
Maybe the one I bought is the one and I just need to reassure myself that there isn’t one better. Maybe I won’t have that feeling with any dress I put in because I am so indecisive. Maybe if I had left that day without buying my dress, I would have second guessed that decision. I know there is little I can do now. I doubt they will let me come back and try on more. This was such a big decision and something that I wanted to get right. The food, no one will remember. The dress, everyone will remember. I want it to be perfect and I want to make the right decision. I just needed to let that out. Am I being silly? Did any other brides feel like this? Did I make the right decision? What do you think I should do now if there is anything to do?
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