Wedding director gifts

Family/friend wedding coordinators are generally no a great idea fyi. Most people on here won't be asking friends and families to coordinate their weddings for a whole host of reasons.

If you're going to do it anyways, a bottle of wine and a gift card to a nice restaurant would be good.

MayBride - why is it not a good idea?

As long as you trust them and are happy with the outcome of your wedding that's all that matters. I would say a card that personally thanks them for all that their doing and a gift card to their favorite place to eat should be good.

Carrie, for starters, if your guests are coordinating your wedding, they will be working, not enjoying your wedding. Coordinating a wedding is stressful, even for a professional. Are you ok with a family member not being able sit down to enjoy a meal because the caterer has a question or the DJ needs an extension cord? Wedding planning/coordinating is a paid position for a reason. Also, it's not an easy task, and someone who has no experience, will likely drop the ball somewhere. It takes a lot of experience to manage a wedding and make sure that things run smoothly. Putting someone in charge of your wedding who has no experience is a recipe for disaster.

For starters, they will be working at your wedding instead of being guests. It will take them four times as long to get anything accomplished and things will get forgotten because no matter how organized they are in real life, weddings are not real life. They are rapid fire streams of events that require props, staffing and emotional stability. .

I've been in this biz for 35 years, between catering and officiating, and even I wouldn't do coordinating beyond the ceremony; there is just too much to keep track of, too many time stamps, too many details, too many vendors.

Please reconsider. And if you don't, I'd say gift cards for massages.

We gave ours $150 but they were not family/friends. I would advise against this as well because family/friends are supposed to be at your wedding as guests, not working and they can't enjoy the day with you if they are working. Plus if anything goes wrong, you risk that relationship becoming strained. We had friends and family members that worked in every wedding industry you can think of and we refused to hire/have any of them work our wedding. We wanted them there as guests only.