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Wedding dilemma

Logan, on March 9, 2022 at 3:29 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 5

Hi everyone I am in need of some advice. For some background, my fh and I have been together for almost five years now. He enlisted in the military and has been serving for two years now. We recently got engaged last July and have been trying to plan a wedding. Of course with military things its hard to make plans which is what I need advice on. So we booked a date for May 19, 2022 which is coming up soon. We were planning to post pone it since he had been assigned to a special task that doesn't allow him to take leave. Meaning I haven't done much planning since we found that out. We just found out that he is deploying in July and will be home in May now. We have discussed getting married legally so I can be on his paperwork when he comes back from deployment and make things easier for the future. I am on board with doing this but now I feel weird doing a wedding.... My grandparents graciously bought my wedding dress already so now I feel like I am obligated to where it which I do because I love it. It is hard because I have envisioned everything and all the friends and family that were going to see us wed but now I am just overwhelmed. Any advice on this situation?


Latest activity by Logan, on March 10, 2022 at 12:08 PM
  • Sarah
    Just Said Yes October 2022
    Sarah ·
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    With his upcoming deployment you’re going to want to be married before hand so you will get information about him during deployment from the umbudsman and his command. If you’re not married they will not give you any information.

    That being said, plan something small and intimate with your families in may. You can do it 💜
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  • H
    Savvy September 2022
    Helen ·
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    I think it would be lovely to just do a smaller, more intimate wedding. If you're not really wanting to go through with a whole big "thing", then just do a small ceremony. Maybe a brunch? Or an afternoon event or maybe in the backyard and then just have snack stuff. Could you comfortably limit it to 40 people or so?

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  • K
    Beginner July 2022
    Kathryn ·
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    Elope! You can always wear the dress to get married in front of the judge and have your friends/family there as witnesses. Also, even if you can’t have a wedding, it’d be nice to have a photoshoot of you guys in your wedding gear
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  • Monica
    Devoted August 2021
    Monica ·
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    You could always get legally married now and have a bigger reception later after he gets back from deployment.
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  • L
    Just Said Yes May 2022
    Logan ·
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    If I could I would... my fiance has a lot of siblings and are older so they all have a lot of kids on their own. When we made the guest list they had over 30 kids in total alone.

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