Wedding date

I don't see a problem with this at all. Maybe just try and do something for him to celebrate his birthday in a way not related to the wedding. Our wedding day is June 8th and my mother's birthday is the following day, June 9th. I'm in NY and she is in AZ. She's flying in June 4th and so Thursday before the wedding (June 6th) I am treating her to a spa day. Manicure, pedicure, and full body massage as a birthday gift. I plan on not discussing anything that has to do with the wedding, unless she brings it up, and just focus on her and her birthday. Maybe treat your soon to be brother in law to something he would love and that is just for him.

I think the date is fine, we are having our wedding one day before my birthday! I wouldn't be upset if anyone had their wedding on or around my birthday.

No you totally do not have to move your date for a birthday! My shower and bah is 2 days after my bridesmaids birthday. my wedding is 3 days after my fsil's birthday and 5 days before FH's birthday lol it will be a busy month but it is not going to change for birthdays

My wedding is the day after my niece's 1st birthday. Obviously it would be the perfect day to have a birthday party and 1 is kind of a big deal but my brother and sister in law don't have a problem with it. I will have a special cake for her there.

I think it's just fine! The best advice I've gotten is to not plan our wedding for anyone else but us- we want our friends and family there, but we won't be able to make everyone happy- so the focus is us! It's not the same day and will be cause for an entire weekend celebration!

I had this similar situation. Our dream venue had ONE date available in the month we wanted to get married in and it was the day before my best friend (MOH)'s birthday. They put a soft hold on the venue for one week and I discussed it with her, asking if it'd be okay to have the wedding that day. She was excited that it'd be one giant party weekend.

Have your FH reach out and ask, but I don't think it's that big of a deal honestly.

I think it's just fine! Our wedding date is 2 days before one of FH's best friends (basically a brother to him) birthday! We've been tossing around the idea of doing something fun at our wedding for his birthday like have a happy birthday dance or something like that

There's only so many days in a year...and if you want a Saturday you get 52 days to choose from. Sat/Sun 104....

This is not a big deal at all and I actually cant believe it's become an issue for you. Most people have 1 wedding and 50+,60+,100+ birthdays. Keep the date! Sorry you're dealing with that.

I am with you! I think it is just fine for his birthday to be two days after. We are getting married on my mothers birthday and she is just thrilled about it!

I think it's fine! It's not on the actual day! I think there will be something wrong with any date you pick if you look at it that way..

No it's just a birthday lol I wouldnt change it again

I see no issue with leaving the day, even if it is a milestone bday his brother would be close (for the wedding) for you to celebrate!

Our wedding date is the day before FH's brother; and it doesn't seem to have bothered anyone. At least no one has said anything. FH text brother when we originally discussed the date and he just said "cool". So I don't think you're the asshole.

I got married 3 days after my sisters birthday so at the rehearsal dinner we surprised her with a cake and sang happy birthday to her. Also my brother got married like 3 days before her birthday (the year after my wedding) and they had the dj call her up to the front and announce her birthday and gave her a gift to open in front of everyone. Both occasions were really sweet and she didn’t have any issues with it! Maybe you can acknowledge him in some way like that?

The only time I would schedule around any birthday would be if it was a big one, 18, 21, 50, 75, 80. AND there was already a scheduled very big party, not just immediate family, that was already booked in a venue, with catering, etc. Already as much work to set up as a wedding, and half my guest list overlapping, it would be unfair. They set time and place first, plans completed. But just because someone has a birthday, that day or close to it, no. The wife of one of then FI's brother pulled this stiff, her birthday a few days before, her sons' the day after and 2 days after. My FMIL started asking me dates. She filled in on a calendar my immediate family birthdays, and their immediate family. Later added, all husbands and wives of siblings, and all kids, his or my nieces and nephews. Big families. We were engaged in May, wanted Sept or Oct. Brother of FI wanted July or.August, moving up, due to move to Europe. A few sisters and brothers scheduled. To avoid 27 birthdays, all graduations, and 8 family weddings already booked, in 25 weeks May-October, with nothing within 2 days of a birthday, would have ruled out 24 of 25 weeks. Just avoiding 2 weeks with 6 graduations, and other 8 already scheduled weddings, 10 weeks, left us 15 possible, so we could schedule several weeks from any other wedding. Even rather self involved FSIL could be convinced, avoiding birthdays in large families was ridiculous. Actually, in a year of 2 immediate families, plus his and my nieces and nephews, avoiding birthdays would have left 9 weekends in the year, all from mid December to 3rd week February. Maybe reasonable in a small family. But then would be anniversaries, and guest birthdays and anniversaries. Crazy to worry about birthdays, just avoiding already scheduled major parties in outside venues is as far as I think reasonable to go.

There were five days between H's brother's birthday and our wedding. Nobody had an issue with it. We almost got married the day before his birthday, but the following weekend worked better for us.

Our wedding is the day before FMIL's birthday. I really don't think it's that big of a deal.

I don’t see a problem with it at all! I also moved my wedding back from October 2019 to October 2020 and am now getting married the day before my parents got married. They were completely fine with it. I think your future BIL will be too!

Go for it! We're getting married on my friend's birthday and she's totally cool with it