Wedding Date

The date was a sore spot for my family too! We're getting married in northern Michigan in January, so everyone is saying how it's going to be freezing and dangerous to travel and it's right after the holidays so it's inconvenient. We did the same as you and said we're sorry but it's up to us. I don't think that's rude at all because it's the truth. If they take offense to it that isn't your fault. Don't let their opinions bring you down because this is going to be your day and it will be amazing regardless of what they say you "should" do/not do. You have your reasons!

I think you were right in standing up for yourself and your fiancé. If you start that way your family will maybe not try to push other opinions on you as much going forward. Way to go!

View Quoted Comment Thank you that means a lot.

View Quoted Comment I appreciate that I really do.

Nope you weren't rude at all. No matter what date you pick you will always have someone who is going to be negative about it. We picked a Saturday in September, my FSIL is pissed because her kids have to miss soccer and school but it's not my fault they live 8 hours away from where the wedding venue is.

View Quoted Comment Agreed my FSIL lives in Canada and she got upset and tried to point out how she doesn't think shell have to come in early or stay after. My FFIL got upset because he doesn't have two years like he thought he did and looked straight at my fiancee and said " I don't even know that girl" Right in front of me.

Not at all. It’s your day and you have your reasons. One of my cousins was upset and called us cheap because we’re doing a Sunday and not a Saturday. 🙄 you can’t please everyone.

Nope you weren't rude! Sometimes you have to put your foot down. I've done it with my FMIL who can be rude sometimes. People need to know that there are boundaries. Happy you stood up for yourself!

I’m not sure why they can dictate the date. Come don’t come. If you’ve known him 3 weeks maybe it’s a rush but I don’t think this is the case.

My fiancé’s family has tried pointing out to me that our wedding date falls on the day of the Nebraska-Ohio game 🙄. We’re doing what WE want. (I may have also booked a venue that doesn’t have tv’s...). It’s your day! I don’t think you were rude at all 😊

Nope, that was a respectful & boundary-setting reply. Buuuuut... in the future let your fiancé address his family or you’ll be the “bad guy.”

Wish I could loan you my MIL. I barely knew her before we married. But their huge close extended family, husband one of 13, most married with opinions counter to ours, would start up. And MIL would cut them off. Excuse me, but is this your wedding? No, it is J and T's. And they will ask you if they want an opinion. Then do what is right for them. Not you. Them . Bless her. You did well in setting boundaries early. They need to see you United on this .

I'm a bit confused here--when was your original date? When are you changing it to? What are the exact problems your fiancé's family has? Your FFIL saying that he "doesn't have two years" is really vague.

Also, why would you think that making a decision and stating your reasoning on a date change would make you rude?