Wedding date

I don't think it was selfish of them. Three months in between the two weddings is absolutely reasonable. You cannot expect them to delay their wedding to 2022 just because your wedding is in 2021. You certainly get your wedding date in 2021, but they are also allowed to choose a date in 2021 if they'd like. I think if they were to choose a date on the same weekend, it would cause some conflicts, but three months should be plenty of time in between the two weddings, and it shouldn't cause any conflicts with your wedding events.

No, I don't view it as selfish. Your day will still be special and about you. Also, it's 100 percent you and your FH's choice to walk in his brother's wedding. If you feel that it's too much then your FH needs to politely explain that to his brother.

I agree weigh the previous comments. Since they have already postponed their wedding once and now again I’m sure they are anxious to get married and don’t want to wait until you get married. If you and your fiancé don’t want to be on their wedding you need to sit down and talk to them soon.

No, it's not selfish. They have had to make changes because of everything going on in the world right now. I would let go of your feelings and enjoy finishing planning your wedding. My brother's wedding was in April, my wedding was in July and my brother-in-law's was in August.

I felt this way when I first set my date. We got engaged Christmas 2020 and set our date for June 2021 literally like 3 weeks after being engaged. My fiancé brother proposed to his girlfriend Valentine’s Day of 2021 and they set a date for January 2022(6months after us). At first I was like how shellfish and we wouldn’t even have our spotlight but I’m over it now.

If anyone is being selfish here, it’s you. You get one wedding day, not two months.

Three months is more than enough time in between weddings.

It’s not selfish. If it was the same weekend or even a week apart then maybe you might have something to complain about it’s months away.

It's three months before your wedding, not two, and no, it's not at all selfish of them. It wouldn't be selfish of them if it were 2 months before your wedding, either.

Having it the same day would be selfish. Months prior isn’t selfish at all. It won’t impact your wedding. It’s entirely different month.

It's not selfish at all, its not like its the day of or even weekend before.

its not selfish at all. my first time getting married me and my sister got married a few months apart in the same year .