Wedding Date!!

Unlike some others on this site, we didn't have a preference for a specific date, but we had a preference of church and venue that both booked up early. Honestly, we just picked the date they both had that worked for our schedules (teacher summer schedule involved).

They weren't both available the week before we selected, which I would have slightly preferred due to the closeness to our dating anniversary.

Pick a season and then talk to venues, then see what you like of the options.

It can be whatever date you want. Some people pick by significance. Others go with what works best. For us, we narrowed down the two months that would work best and decided we really wanted a Saturday evening wedding. Then we looked at venues and July was cheaper than June for the venue we really liked and chose a date based off the available Saturdays in July that they had.

You don't necessarily have a date until you have signed with a venue because you have to make sure you have somewhere for the wedding to take place.

Since you've varied narrowed down some seasons, what I would do next would be to figure out your budget, create a rough guest list so you know how big of a venue you need, and then start searching for places that would fit your needs.

We picked our date during the same week as our "started dating" anniversary!

Thank you guys because I feel so lost

Congratulations!! I suggested our date based on National holidays (ensuring friends and family would more than likely be in town), avoiding birthdays of anyone close to either of us, comfortable weather months (I don’t want to be hot in my dress and him uncomfortable in his tux). That narrowed our date down for us.

View Quoted Comment This is a good way to start. Narrow down potential venues first, then maybe a season. See what’s available and the more flexible you can be, the better.

I asked my venue what dates they had open in September and then picked one of them.

We didn't have a specific date in mind, we just wanted a spring wedding. The venue we decided on didn't have any Saturday's in Spring of 2020 left, so we decided on Sunday, May 3 because we didn't want it to get too hot towards the end of May. We had to move up our wedding date to February to accommodate a family member, so we stuck with the Sunday wedding and chose February 23. That date sounded best to me, plus our original anniversary date was July 23, so that was a nice bonus

We don't have an exactly date either but I wanted to get married during the off wedding season, to try to save a little money.

We wanted to save money yet have it as close to warm weather (and blooms) as possible. For Napa, off-season was Jan-Mar so we chose March. We wanted a Monday to ensure cheaper hotel rates for us and our small guest list (15). The last Monday of March got booked while we were negotiating with our venue so we quickly moved it to the 3rd Monday in March... which ended up being spring equinox! Pretty cool.

I had my fiancé pick and he picked the day we had our first kiss.

We chose our wedding date by figuring out how much we can save per month then figuring out how much we needed for the wedding we wanted so that gave us an idea of when (what month) we can afford to have our wedding so we looked at the dates in that month and picked the one we liked best but it wasn't officially our date until we booked the venue because if the venue we liked didn't have that date available then we would have picked a new date

For my fiancé and me it was important for us to have a specific priest and photographer. We found a date that worked best for both.

I say figure out what’s the most important for you. Is that a certain timeframe of the year vs vendors and go from there. Good luck!

Congratulations! I’m not getting married until 2021 either. My fiancé and I first agreed that we wanted a fall wedding. Then, after figuring out the type of venue we want (mix of indoor and outdoor), we decided September would be best because it gets pretty crappy here in October with rain and cold. Then, once we found the venue we wanted, we just picked out of the dates they had left. We didnt want to do labor day weekend because people are busy, and we didn’t want to do September 11th. So we picked September 25th 😊

View Quoted Comment

This is actually pretty genius and I wish I'd thought of it!

We actually did the opposite of everyone else and we booked our honeymoon FIRST. We wanted to go on a cruise so we booked based on the season/price and when there wouldn't be a lot of kids/young party people around (so we knew we didn't want to go in summer/spring.) Once we did that we picked a date and started calling vendors. The wedding will be the weekend before the honeymoon. I'll have to work for a week after saying "I do" and that's OK because then we're off to sunny Mexico for a week. Olé!

Flexible is great point and who knows maybe you’ll get better rates? We picked worse time because we won’t be saving but it’s what works for us.