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Danielle
Devoted October 2021

Wedding date on my moms birthday

Danielle, on July 20, 2019 at 10:27 PM Posted in Planning 0 18
I will be getting married October 30th 2020. This is one of my favorite days all of year besides the 31rst and probably my most happiest time of year. Lucky me, after getting engaged, All Hallows’ eve fell on a Friday next year which is also what I wanted! However, October 30th is also my Mother’s birthday and one of my bridesmaids mother’s birthdays who has passed away a few years ago. I have gotten a lot of questions about having my wedding day on my mother birthday. She’s fine with it and I do think she sees it as a chance to look back on something so beautiful every year on her birthday and she’s so beautiful inside for that because I’ve seen too many people be selfish about these topics. How’s a good way to really let her know I will always remember my wedding day as a day of celebration for my mom and Halloween! I was thinking maybe a special cake for her and playing the song landslide for her?

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Latest activity by Karlee, on July 22, 2019 at 11:12 AM
  • Heather
    Expert October 2019
    Heather ·
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    I think a special cake for her and have you’re guests sing happy birthday! Let it be a surprise for her! She’ll feel so special!
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  • CDickman
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    I Am getting married in my best friends moms b day. But she is shy so she does not want anything major done and has asked my friend to make sure I know that lol. We may give her a card when we visit the tables. Depands on who is sitting with her.
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  • M
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    I got married on my moh best friend bday and she said she was cool with it. After all it's moreso about when worked best for us, not like it's intentionally overshadowing her. So we had everyone sing Happy bday to her and then we wrote on our fun facts it's her b-day so please wish her happy bday and for rehearsal din night before we got her a big cake and everyone sang to her
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    I agree with PPs about having a birthday cake for your mom. That would be very sweet!

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  • Jessica
    Master September 2020
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    All Hallows’ Eve is the 31, it’s the same as Halloween just another name for it. There’s no reason you can’t have a Halloween themed wedding on 10/30, I just got confused about what you were explaining with the dates. Samhain is my favorite day of the year and holiday too, and there are so many great ideas for Halloween weddings.

    If your mom is fine with it, I think it would be nice to do something special for her during the reception like a birthday cake. When we decided September 2020, we were initially looking at Labor Day weekend, but that Saturday is my mom’s birthday. My mom was weird about it when we talked, so I didn’t even ask or suggest using her birthday. Pushing it back a week worked better anyways so it worked out for us.
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  • thisismrsb
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    My brother got married on my husband's birthday, a year and a half before we were engaged ourselves. As the date got closer I asked my brother if it would be okay to do something for DH's birthday, though I didn't want to step on any toes as it was his wedding weekend. He said "absolutely!" He explained that the night before the wedding, a family friend was hosting a casual pizza party for our family and out of town guests in his honor and that I could bring dessert for DH's birthday.

    I ordered a custom made cake for about fourty people (I think it was about twelve inches) in the flavors that DH picked from a kosher, gluten free and allergy friendly bakery, knowing that there would be guests with gluten sensitivities. I brought it to the house and lit it up after the pizza had been served. Everyone sang to DH for his birthday and there were a few words in his honor.

    Our wedding was this past June 23rd and my Grandma's birthday was earlier in the month. The Friday night before, my mother held a dinner at my parent's house. After dinner, a cake was brought out for her birthday. She's in her nineties and has dementia, so it's not easy for her to travel. But she was there, her family was there and some of her extended family, including one of her own nieces was there, so sharing my wedding weekend with her that night was special.

    You can do what I did and celebrate with your mom during the wedding weekend by providing a special cake for her. While getting ready on your wedding day with her, you can share a private moment to give her a gift. You can make a special toast to her during the reception, dance with her to her favorite song, or dedicate the song to her and have your dad or someone sweep her onto the dance floor, just the two of them. What do you think?
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  • Formerbride
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    We got married on my husband's birthday and we didn't technically do anything special. Everyone said happy birthday to him lol. We didn't sing or do a special cake. Neither of us are the type of people to make birthdays a big deal. Mine was 11 days later and we ate pizza on our porch lol. 🤷‍♀️ Everyone has different wants and needs. If your mom is the type who likes to make her birthday a thing, get a special cake or cupcake and sing happy birthday.
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  • Angela
    Dedicated September 2020
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    Our wedding date is on my Mother In laws birthday. we are having a cake with sparkler candles and singing to her.

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  • Danielle
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    Someone in the comments mentioned they had done something for theirs DH the weekend before/of. So maybe since she’s shy you could do a little something at maybe the rehearsal dinner since those tend to be much smaller amount of people then the wedding!?
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  • CDickman
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    They will not be at the rehearsal dinner.
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  • Danielle
    Devoted October 2021
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    My FH bday is on Christmas so he’s not huge on celebrating as it was always hard to. My grandma also was born on Christmas which is another reason I think my mom was okay with it, she’s used to special occasions having to be shared and it never being an issue and we are the same, I’d rather stay home for my birthday and chill then have some huge celebration and we never go out to eat but we do around my moms bday so I’m sure she’ll wanna combine to dinners which is fine by us!!
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  • Danielle
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    I’m definitely stealing some of these ideas!!!
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  • Danielle
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    Can you bring her back to where you’re getting ready the day of or a separate room for a few minutes at some point to say happy birthday and give her a card or whatever?
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  • CDickman
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    Not sure when they are getting there. Friend is not in the wedding so they will be getting there the same time as guest. I will just sneak it to her at reception.
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  • Alisha
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    We have something in common. I am getting married on August 9, 2020 and that is my grandfathers birthday. He will be 98 years old on my wedding/his birthday. We are going to have a great time celebrating.

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  • Danielle
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    It’s truly awesome when families are accepting of things like this! I know my FH and grandma share a birthday with Christmas so in my family it isn’t really odd for celebrating certain events together and none of us mind. My FH and I don’t really “celebrate” anniversary’s like crazy and when everyone is together hanging out having fun it doesn’t really matter what reason or why! Just that it serves for good times and good memories!!
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  • Alisha
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    I agree we do the same thing. When there is a group of birthdays in a month, we celebrate and have fun. My son and I celebrate the same birthday and it is fun to celebrate together. No matter what the occasion is, we as a family have fun.
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  • Karlee
    Savvy October 2020
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    I'm getting married on my brother's and one of my best friends' birthdays. I asked them if that was okay and they both said it's going to be the best birthday party ever so why not? I think I'm going to do a cake for my brother since he'll be turning 16 but my friend said she doesn't care and doesn't want anything. I might still do something small though.

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