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Just Said Yes February 2022

Wedding Date Drama

Brittany, on January 22, 2022 at 4:04 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10
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Hi everyone! I’d like to get your opinions on whether or not I’m just being a big baby!


My mom and her boyfriend got engaged Dec of 2021, my fiancé and I were engaged Feb 2021! We have been planning our wedding for the last year, and had originally planned on a 2/20/2022 wedding but the venue we loved was already booked so we moved to 2/12/2022 which ended up having more sentimental value anyways!
My dilemma is that my mom just called to let me know that they will be getting married on 2/20/2022, one week and one day after my wedding and the day after I get home from my honeymoon… I am feeling a bit like that is very very soon after mine! I’m a little butthurt, but do I need to just suck it up?
My main concern is that on my honeymoon where we should be enjoying our new marriage, I will be worrying about my mom’s wedding and also I will be missing out on the ability to help her plan!
What are your thoughts??

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Latest activity by Jayne, on January 23, 2022 at 5:32 PM
  • KYLIE
    Super May 2019
    KYLIE ·
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    I am usually the first person to say “you only get one day blah blah blah”…but I would be super annoyed in your situation! I wouldn’t care so much about helping my mom plan but I’d be annoyed to have a big event right after my honeymoon and not be able to recap and relive my wedding/honeymoon with my mom. Did she say why they picked the day they did?
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  • B
    Just Said Yes February 2022
    Brittany ·
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    From my understanding, just because they liked the date!
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  • Cece
    Master October 2023
    Cece ·
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    I can completely understand why this would be upsetting and inconvenient for you. If I were in your situation, I think I would go to my mom and ask if there was any way she would consider another day. Let her know that it’s really important and meaningful for you to be able to share the experience of planning her wedding with her, and you would not be able to do that with your dates so close together and you on your honeymoon. Maybe she would consider a spring or summer wedding?
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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2022
    Taylor ·
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    I feel like she should have talked to you at least. My fiancé and I are getting married two weeks after his cousin and they have had to push their wedding off twice already and we have not so my first instinct before booking a date was to ask her if I would be stepping on her toes by getting married so soon after her. I wanted to make sure I didn’t ruin anybody’s moment etc. and she said it was totally fine with her and she super appreciated me asking. They even said they would work their honeymoon around our wedding. I feel like the least your mom could’ve done is have a conversation with you
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  • Shannon
    Super July 2022
    Shannon ·
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    I would be very annoyed at this. Did your mom choose your original date on purpose? There are plenty of other dates for her to pick from. Find one in another month, let alone a week apart.
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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    You get one day to celebrate and she gets one day to celebrate. No one owns a month/season/year. If they did, no one anywhere would be able to attend or be invited.
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I think it is fair to voice those feelings to her, but not directly ask her to change her date. Depending on her planning circumstances, she may not have considered that side, and may not be that committed to the date, and your thoughts could sway her…or, not. And then just roll with it and reaffirm that you’d like to help out/ be involved with prep, but really won’t be able to. And after you’ve said your piece, if her date sticks, don’t worry about the rest— just enjoy your honeymoon knowing she’s made an informed decision and you’ll be there when you get back.
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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    It's inconvenient for sure, but I don't think you'll gain much by confronting her on this. I would enjoy the honeymoon without worrying about her wedding.

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  • Candace
    Super March 2022
    Candace ·
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    Maybe she's thinking hers will be small and not involved? I get that but she's still going to need all the pre-wedding events and planning that goes into it. I think it was inconsiderate of her. This is your chance to have all the thunder and now she's going to be planning her wedding right when yours should be the focus, and you won't be able to focus on hers. Speaking as a mom of an adult daughter, I would absolutely not encroach on my daughter's time to shine. She can wait another 2 months. Sorry.
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  • Jayne
    Dedicated June 2022
    Jayne ·
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    I'm sorry but I think you are being very immature and selfish to not at least try and see it from your mom's standpoint. (I'm here planning our 50th anniversary) I'm probably a little older than your mom even and I know that I don't want to waste a single day of the rest of my life. She just wants to get on to the next chapter with someone to love and be loved by. It's time for you to show a little maturity and generosity for someone else by thinking about their happiness instead of just how it impacts you. This is hopefully the rest of her life starting too.

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