Wedding date confusion

First of all Congratulations on your engagement. There is no such thing as too far out. You choose what works for you and your fiancé.

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We are both getting our masters and are in school full time still, we are also paying for the wedding mostly ourselves which is why we pushed it until 2023. I just feel like it’s so far! Thank you for your advice!!

Justice , it’s totally up to what works for the two of you.
I got engaged in feb 2021 and wish I would have booked 2023 . I booked April 2022 and Time is flying .before I know it the day will be here

Also congrats !!!

View Quoted Comment Cindy, thank you!! Congrats to you as well! Hearing that makes me feel a lot better, I just don’t want it to drag on but I’m sure time will fly by. Thank you again!

View Quoted Comment I don’t think it’s too far at all. Most places are already booked for 2022, so take your time and finish school and enjoy your engagement.

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It's 100% up to you! I had a four month engagement and I think there are pros and cons to short and long engagements! Enjoy your time planning!

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I don't think that's too far out. We got engaged last October and have a 2 year engagement. We're also paying for most of everything by ourselves so we wanted to give ourselves time to save up.

Not too far! I got engaged in March 2020, enter COVID, we paused wedding planning until the vaccines came out, then set a date for Aug 2022. I will be engaged for 2.5 years, and it has flown by so far! It takes a lot of work to plan a wedding, so more time has been nice for me. I get to take my time researching venues and vendors, making decisions, get my top picks while they're available and have lower prices, and then have breathing room to take a break for a few months if I need it.

There is no right or wrong answer, only what works for you and your partner.

We had a 9 month engagement and that was plenty long enough. My husband and I had been together for four years (living together for three) when we got engaged and were in our mid-30s with established careers, a home, and a dog we adopted together. I would have been perfectly happy with 5-6 months to plan and pull off our wedding, but we got engaged in late August and wanted an outdoor wedding, so would have either had to do it all in 2 months to be married by October (not quite enough time) or wait a full 9 months to get us to May, which was we chose to do. Then Covid came, so we had to postpone a full year, and we are actually having our wedding celebration about 22 months after becoming engaged. We legally married last year but it has all felt really "unfinished" and waiting so long to celebrate with our loved ones and have the event we wanted has felt like torture. I am so excited the day is just around the corner finally!

I think a year is the most I would have wanted to wait, but had we been earlier in our relationship, younger, or less financially stable when we got engaged, having a longer engagement would have given us more time to plan and save, and being engaged itself would have felt like a meaningful next stage and independent chapter in our relationship. Where we are now in life, we just wanted to be married and are eager to start a family (and running out of time to do so), and having a long engagement didn't contribute anything meaningful to our plan. I'm really organized and had all the details worked out within a few months, so a shorter engagement was perfect for us.

I got engaged last July and am getting married in February of 2023! It totally worked out for us to save up, and have plenty of time to plan! From what I’m hearing now, it can be difficult to book in much less time than that with COVID reschedules!!

Congratulations .

When we were planning, we planned for almost 2 years out. People told us that it was too long, why are we waiting so long, blah blah blah...let me tell you. BEST decision ever! We were able to save up a lot more money to pay things off cash vs. worrying about using credit cards and personal loans or relying on other people's help, I got to take my time planning everything and had first pick of every vendor I wanted, and of course, COVID destroyed 2020 for weddings. So I don't think it's too far out at all! And you should trust your gut and what you feel is right for both of you. You feel it for a reason!

That is a fairly long engagement, but it is totally up to you and your fiance! Some people enjoy extended engagements because it gives you time to plan everything without feeling rushed. Also, you know you will get your top choice of vendors that far out. There is nothing wrong with long engagements!

Congrats! It's definitely not "too long" as there are no right or wrong answers here. It's all personal preference. Sounds like with other big life events coming up, waiting til 2023 is smart. Our big wedding celebration will be this October which is 20 months after we got engaged and from my personal experience I wish it was much shorter (although not possible with covid anyways). My advice if you are waiting til 2023 to have the wedding is to not start planning until about a year out. So much can change in that time, i.e. trends, personal style, guest list, etc. and you don't want to end up planning one thing then wanting something totally different. I changed my entire wedding vision/color scheme 3 times, questioned whether I really loved the venue, and had to buy a second wedding dress because I no longer liked the first one I picked. Another thing I didn't consider was being "jealous" of people that got engaged after me and had their wedding before me. I'm not a jealous person but it was like FOMO/Jealousy in a "ugh I wish I was done planning and just married already" kind of way.

It's overwhelming for sure and I thought I would like having a lot time to plan plus I also was still in grad school at the time so it made sense but knowing what I know now and in a perfect world I would have picked less than a year. That's why it's all personal preference. Everyone on here will tell you pros and cons for both so you have to go with your gut.

My sister got engaged and then shortly after started year 2 of a 5 year program for occupational therapy and was too stressed. So she waited till she graduated. Then Covid hit. She was engaged for over 5 years before getting married, so I don't think there's any right or wrong timeline. Just pick what works for you!

Congratulations!!! I think that’s a perfect amount of time. I got engaged 9/18 was supposed to be married 1/21 (covid) and now we’re getting married 7/21. It’ll give you time to secure all the vendors you really want that would otherwise be taken in 22, save more $, see new dress collections and more time in general to enjoy your engagement period.

Thank you all for your amazing advice!! I honestly feel so much better in just one day from hearing about everyone else’s experiences!! We will be sticking with our February 2023 date ♥️