Wedding date advice

If it was me, I would pick June.

Go with your gut! If you and your FH are happy with June, get married in June! I had a few family members pose ridiculous questions and scenarios once we had to reschedule our wedding. I hope this doesn’t come between you and your MOH if you two are close, but for her to make handing out water to marathon runners more of a priority than the wedding she was chosen to be Maid of Honor in... I would have an issue with that kind of attitude.

I would pick July. Although I think your MOH should be able to skip volunteering at the marathon that year for your wedding, you risk her backing out of the position by picking a date she said she can’t do. Between Father’s Day weekend and July fourth weekend I think more people would be available July 4th weekend. I’m in Ohio so can’t comment much on the weather unfortunately

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I agree, I was surprised/saddened when that was her initial reaction towards the date... Especially when all of us planning weddings right now aren't exactly getting a huge amount of choices for when to have our weddings! It's opening a whole different can of worms with the MOH issue. She is my oldest friend but I do have a different close friend who I was MOH for this past year who I also would be happy with being MOH in my wedding. Choosing her over the other friend I mentioned though could lead to some massive drama/ill feelings from the original planned MOH. But I suppose that's a whole different discussion for a different day! Thanks for the advice.

Personally, I would pick June. July long weekend sounds more problematic, for costs availability and people going away for that weekend...?

Most importantly pick which date your gut is telling you. This is your day so pick what date is better with you and your fiancé.

I love the outside idea, so if May doesn’t allow you to utilize that option, they get rid of that option.

Good luck and congrats!

I agree with others and I'd go with June. If your MOH chooses to participate in her volunteer commitment rather than the wedding, I'd just accept her decision and move on. (FWIW we got married on the Saturday of Father's Day weekend 30+ years ago and it wasn't an issue for the wedding and it's never been an issue for us. We're not the type of people who would think our anniversary is a major event requiring other people's attention, so that might have made it better. If it will be a problem for you that you and others will often be celebrating Father's Day the weekend of your anniversary, then I'd choose something different but if you don't care then go for it! Personally, I really hate weddings on major holiday weekends like July 3 -- in our circle that would inconvenience a lot of people.) Good luck!

I would probably go with June rather than Fourth of July weekend. People are more likely to have for the Fourth of July than Father's Day. As for your friend, there is no reason she couldn't skip volunteering one year as she isn't in the race or doesn't know anyone that is.

I'd go with June. That's what you immediately leaned towards and a marathon scheduling issue is honestly silly. I know many more people that travel for the 4th of July than for Father's Day, and there's basically no weekend at all that wouldn't conflict with someone for someone on your guest list. It's your day, so if you want June, pick June!

JUNE JUNE JUNE! I'd go with June hands down. People have weddings the day before father's day all the time and it's no problem. Your MOH is being ridiculous and will probably come around.