Wedding dances are giving me anxiety!

Back home at some wedding half way through the first dance the dj or musician would invite the parents of the bride and groom to join them on the dance floor so there would be another few

Couples up with you - would that work?

You dj should be able to give you some solutions. We will most likely only be dancing to half of it

@beachwedding - thats a good idea!

I will definitely reach out to our dj today about this. It was bothering me my entire commute to work this morning. haha

ETA: words are hard

We thought we would do our dance after dinner, and open up the dance floor to our guests either during or right after. However, our DJ suggested it might be best if we did the first dance before dinner, because during dinner people start to make themselves more comfortable, for example jackets come off, ties loosened, etc. i know that's usually when my shoes come off and my slippers go on. He said we should check with the photographer and see what she thinks.

I feel the exact same way. I won't mind dancing with my husband but I don't need everyone's undivided attention when I do. We're only dancing 2 min

Both of us a nervous about the spotlight. I will probably pick an upbeat, fun song. But just need to figure out timeline. Will seem weird to "turn up" with the first dance then "turn down" to start dinner. But want to get the dances out the way so we can relax and have fun.

I am so glad to know we aren't alone in feeling nervous about this. So maybe we should just get our first dance over with before dinner, and just do a shortened version.

Dread is the word that comes to mind to having to dance with all eyes on us. I mean being with FH for that time is great, but awkward (another word that comes to mind) is definitely how I will feel. I would like us to do our dance right from our intro and just be done with it. Man, when you type it out it sounds so bad...

I feel your pain! I am nervous enough about the ceremony and walking down the aisle, but then to have to dance while everyone just watches - ugh. To make matters worse, we still haven't decided on a song, and we are only 44 days out.

I was also confused about the timeline of the first dance, and my DJ is pushing for the first dance, then dinner, then the other dances/opening dance floor. I was thinking dinner (and drinks) and then let our dance be the gateway into all the dancing. Apparently this is a no-no?

Lol @ Richard When are you going to let him know? I've been vetoing swing dancing lessons for about 5 years now.

We're probably doing the first 2 minutes or so then have others join in.

Totally wouldn't be weird to fade out or fade into another dance! Ours is happening right after our intro too, just to kick everything off. Just think though, you will spend so much time on your wedding day talking to others, greeting others, this time is for you and FH only. Forget everyone else around you and just be in the moment together. Oh, and we'll be doing the 7th grade sway lol

Fh and I are pretty shy specially when dancing... so we are thinking of having our first dance right after the introduction and in the middle have the FOB and MOG cut in and finish the dance (two dances for one song). then we will eat really quick and start taking pictures visiting every table. After dinner I want to plan a fun flash mob kind of entrance to open the dance floor and invite everyone to join in for the rest of the night... but it's still not set in stone and is on my to-do list.

@TayliaRae - date twin!!! My photographer gave me a timeline to work from (based on what she needs), and she was pushing for Intro, first dance, then dinner & toasts, then father/daughter and mother/son. I guess that's the normal procession, but it doesn't make sense to me either. To me it should be Intro, dinner & toasts, then the dances and ending with the dance floor being open to all. I don't know. I say we do what we want!

@Richard - HAHAHA. FH and I will totally be middle-school dancing

Either way, FH and I will feel SO awkward. At least if we do the first dance after dinner/toasts, we will have had a little bubbly to loosen us up?

We will probably do a shortened first dance and then we are combining the mother/son and father/daughter dance to reduce the awkwardness.

We will only be doing a first dance. Then group dancing.

@tayliarae and @futuremrsmccoy date twins!

I feel like if I make my guests wait for dinner any longer that they will be hangry.

My brother actually had a different order of events and I think it worked out well. We did the bridal party intro, the bride/groom intro and then went right into toasts. Then we had a salad course. Then they did first dance, father/bride and mother/son, then did their buffet dinner. When they are planning it I was worried people would be distracted, but it actually worked out really well. (And, they definitely didn't do the full length of their song).