Wedding Customs/Traditions

What about the "lazo" and if you want you can have sponsors or "padrinos" this custom comes in handy cuz the sponsors help pay for the things you need for your wedding.

Thanks for you suggestion. My FH doesn't want to do the lazo. I am unfamiliar with the other one. What exactly does it entail?

Well the "padrinos" for example: the couple that pays for the cake is called the padrinos del pastel or english verson "cake godparents" I don't think it translates well. So anyways you would get diff people to get diff thing needed for the wedding and call them "padrions" and they would be listed on your programs. If you have lots of people who want to help then it should not be to much trouble.

We are doing a Rose ceremony with our mothers.

Good Luck

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. How lovely that you would like to incorporate meaningful customs into your ceremony. However, keep in mind that if you have too many of these, they loose their impact. I played at a wedding recently where there was custom after custom and ceremony after ceremony. The first 20 minutes were beautiful but after half an hour, it seemed to get very long and people became really antsy. I would choose just one or two that are particularly meaningful to you and your families.

Best wishes,

Margaret Sneddon, Harpist

www.margaretsneddon.com

New York, NY and the Hudson River Valley

Thanks for all the suggestions. I agree I don't want a lot of ceremonies just ones that have not been overdone.

What is your nationality? You can incorporate something from yours also.

We are mostly Hungarian mexican, Italian, Irish, so we are trieing to have a little bit of all throughout the ceremony and reception.

Ceremony, we are doing a bell ceremony after the rings and candle- Irish

Ceremony, Boquet has lavendar and heather -Irish

Recep, hanky dance-Hungarian

Recep, Talandela(spelling?) dance- Italian

Recep, Chocolate gold coins in a pot (pot of gold)- Irish

Recep, Confetti(jordon almonds) in pouch- Italian

Recep, cookie table-tradition in pittsburgh all our nationalities are represented on that.

Wedding cake, charms are in the cake and the bridal party pulls them and they are for good luck- Irish.

Mexican is incorporated in the food and some music, Im trieing to teach FH how to salsa.

Just look into your backround every one has some kind of tradition just pick what you like.Its your wedding and you can have as many or as little as you want.

I am English and German and my FH is originally from El Salvador though he moved to New Orleans when he was a kid. I have tried to find traditions for both of us and the only thing I found was the coin ceremony. I appreciate any and all opinions.

I did a quick search and found German- coins, throwing them to the children that are watching , you could do a twist and have chocolate coins as favors, or just for the kids.

English- Tieing shoes to your bumper of the car you will be in, or carry a horseshoe in your flowers , there is also sewing a horseshoe(stiching it not a metal horseshoe) to the bottom hem of your gown, for good luck.

German- they block the exits of recep., the doors are decorated w/ ribbons and garland and such and the husband has to pay a toll to leave with his bride, tradition is the promise of another party soon.

Ill keep looking see if I can find some good ones.

Our pastor suggested this 'rose ceremony' to us and we are debating it:

After the rings, unity candle, and everything else, we would present each other with a rose each. The pastor would say something to the effect of "As the first gift to each other as husband and wife, the bride and groom give each other these roses as a token of the love and passion they have for each here on their wedding day." He would then go on to explain to the congregation that the roses will be preserved and placed somewhere centralized in our new home. This way, whenever we have a fight or something, we look at the roses and remember our 'love and passion' we had on our wedding day. This is meant to bring the two of us back to our senses and out of the fight!

Hope that makes sense!