Wedding Crasher Security

So would the DOC stand at the door and check names off a list? What would happen if someone showed up and was not on the list?

I'm sorry you have to deal with them, is it a local wedding or will the not-invited potentially be traveling?

If someone messages you about details you can always say "we had to keep our guest list limited due to venue/budget restrictions". They should get the hint.

I understand big families but people have to realize that a big party costs lots of money. I would never show up to any event without an explicit invitation.

My muscles are (slowly) getting bigger. Let me know if you need my assistance

All joking aside, I am so sorry you are going through this. You might be on to something with name cards.

The wedding is local but I don't put it past some of my family members out of state.

I have no clue what the DOC would do. I'm scheduled to talk to her soon.

My venue requires a list of all guest for liability purposes.

I am thinking maybe the DOC will just stand at the door and discreetly make sure everyone has a name card. I'm not sure what she should do if they don't have one.

Oh and I've told both my parents to handle their family. So the calls have gone out about the guest list limit. If you did not receive a invite in the mail you are not invited. FH is handling his.

I would probably ask my parents to deal with the situation so I didn't come off rude. I would probably have the bridesmaids or grooms stand by the name cards. That might be a good idea. Then tell them they aren't on the list. When they confront you just say you didn't know they wanted to come considering you are keeping it very small. Sorry lol.

My sister had a trusted family friend check names off a list for her ceremony! She only had enough chairs for the folks that RSVP'd. People were turned away. No one made a huge deal about it. They knew they were in the wrong for showing up uninvited.

One of my work nicknames is "Bouncer." Amanda and I can be there!

Make a list and give it to the doc. No namey, no gamey

This is also why I password protected my wedding website.

I password protected my website as well! I think some people are really crazy to automatically assume they are invited and to show up to an event you were not invited to is insanity!! I could never do something like that I hope it doesn't happen to you that'd be terrible!

You know that the crashers will say they left the name card at home or in their car.

Give your DOC the same list of names as you give the venue. If someone's name is not on the list, they don't get in.

I just had a convo about this with FH. He is insisting we need someone at the door checking names because every wedding he's been to has had that. I've never been to a wedding with something like that, but I've heard stories of people crashing and can see how someone checking names at the door could of resolved that.

I would definitely see if your DOC would be willing to do it. And I'm sure they would be able to turn away uninvited ones without making a scene (hopefully).

I have family like this too. We suspect that my cousins will try to bring their whole entourage (adult kids, grandkids, and kids SOs) even though only the cousins themselves are invited. Our venue works from the final guest count. If your name isn't on the list, you don't get in. Can you make the same request of your venue?

I would call the aunt and tell her to stop telling everyone and that people will find out when they get the invite or not

We have the same issues with FH family. Not so much with mine. We have a security guard - not on the list (no invite or no RSVP), no entrance.

I am worried that FH will have family members decline the invite, but at the last minute show up anyway OR accept the invite and then no show. Nearly his entire family is OOT. A lot have verbally stated they are coming, but have not booked rooms or travel arrangements yet. There is still time for that, but my hotel block is filling up with my OOT family members.

FH agrees we will likely have some drama/issues with his family regarding invites and RSVPs.