Hi. So my Fiance and I had a venue, then freaked out about cost and what we want so we are rethinking. I have read that the average spend in the US is $33K, and various posts with people saying "how could I spend 20K on a wedding?" and i'm sitting here with all my research around the greater Seattle area and my thought is, how do you not spend at least $50k (for 100-150 guests)??! Anyone have any reference points on what they've spent for say 100-150 guests in Seattle or similar type of city? I cannot seem to find anything to get this number down (aside from cutting guest count which we really don't want to do). One idea we had in trying to be creative, is to have a small elopement and then just a party after; not sure how that works logistically. We really want to dance around with all our friends, that's the part we love most about weddings. And then I think about wanting to get ready with my friends and be able to walk down the aisle and I'm back at square one with wanting a traditional wedding.
Also, would love to hear from the folks who are paying themselves - I am struggling to rationalize the numbers (we are paying for our wedding ourselves). Please enlighten me.