Wedding Comparison Syndrome?

I do compare about how mine will be compared to others. I'm insecure about how some of the snobs on in my FW'S family are. Mainly I use comparing as a tool as how I would change things in a positive way. For example we will need help setting up and cleaning up. We are letting people know this way ahead of time. We went to her cousin's wedding and the day before she surprised family with helping out. They had to pick up bales of hay from somewhere and set them up in the woods plus decorate and pre-clean. People were pissed, still mad to this day. At another wedding it was hot and they had LOUD fans going you couldnt hear anything unless it was dance music. So we know to make sure to have our venue cool. It's preset but will tell them to turn it colder for us anyway. We have also been surprised by a cash bar before without money. Ours will be free booze.

We know ours will be "us" though. Great company, great food, great time. We were going to do a more traditional less DIY route but ultimately we wanted to have less restriction of timing and choices so it could be us.

I do. I'm on a budget and can't afford everything so sometimes seeing really lavish weddings makes me very self conscious.
But ultimately I know I'm not going into debt for a wedding and that's more important.

I just posted about this a week or so ago. I was so confident in our quirky but lovely ideas, but freaked that it was going to look all wrong because people would be expecting what I was seeing on the forums. I even had half a second of dress regret because I specifically bought a unique dress I had never seen before, not the version of the same style I've been seeing everywhere. (So not knocking other dresses here because they are all beautiful) My dress is perfect for ME! Our wedding will be beautiful because it will be ours. Yours will be the same. If all of our weddings looked the same it would be SOOOO boring!!!

I was feeling this way a little at the beginning of my wedding plans.

My cousin is getting married in a few days at a big hotel in Indy so of course it's going to be amazing. Well I don't have Rich Uncle Moneybag's money, so ours will be a little bit more intimate. And since this is such a large occasion, there's been the classic drama of mom and dad are paying so they get a say in everything.

My brother got engaged a few weeks before I did, and this fiancée went full on planning mode the next day. I kid you not, this girl booked her venue THE. NEXT. MORNING! She's the type to have everything Pinterest perfect without any regards to a budget or a plan. They're getting married at a venue in the Finger Lakes on top of a mountain. While the place is gorgeous, it's not practical: 45 minutes away from the nearest hotel, no parking so they need shuttles, and the grounds are sprawling requiring guests to walk everywhere. She talks about her $2k custom gown, thousands of dollars on flowers, a 5 tier custom cake, etc. Yeah that sounds great, but their $45k budget makes me sick to my stomach.

Us? We're getting married at local country club - that's 10 minutes from town haha- with less than 100 of our favorite people. We're DIY-ing just about everything the venue isn't already doing for us to save more money. All in all, we'll probably come in under $20k.

Yea it's really easy to compare yours to someone else's. But just know that yours will be unique to you.

Not the wedding itself..but the dress/over all look of me. We have large families so the budget was spent on venue, food, alcohol and the dj. I don't have a lot work with dress wise. On top of that I'm overly self conscious. I compare myself to all of the gorgeous women I see getting married. How nice they all look.

It is easy to do this nut just remember that your wedding will be your. It will be about you, your vision and marrying your true love!

Don't feel like that.

We are doing our own wedding but I learn a lot of "Do nots" since I have been to 3 weddings and was in 2. I really haven't copied a lot of their wedding because that is just me.

I see where you're coming from! Looking at other people's high budget weddings can make me feel as if my wedding is nothing in comparison. Def have to remind myself that every wedding should be a reflection of the couple!

I have caught myself comparing what I want/have to others. I thought I was the only one. I just keep telling myself that I am doing this the way that I want.

I didn't. I was very firm about what I wanted for location (beach) and the look (I interviewed 6 different decorators until I found the perfect look). And I tempered by guest list so I was able to host my guests in the way I believe they deserved. Honestly, it was perfect. I wish all brides could feel so confident. You deserve it.