Wedding colors

They're probably asking because they don't want to match the wedding party. You can share or not share whatever information you'd like, but I've never seen a couple be secretive about their wedding colors. They're just colors, after all.

I agree with the previous comment - people probably are trying to make sure that they don't accidentally match the wedding party. If you wanted to, instead of telling them what colors you chose, you could say, "The wedding party is wearing [color 1] and [color 2]." That way, you don't have to disclose your entire color selection, and your guests won't match the wedding party.

If you don't tell people the colors, you'll run the risk of people showing up in the same color as the wedding party - because guests won't know which colors to avoid.

I agree with the previous posters. They are likely asking because they don't want to show up in the same color. My husband is a groomsman in a very formal wedding that has asked the ladies to wear long gowns so I asked the groom what colors the bridesmaids would be wearing because I didn't want to accidentally wear the same color.

I agree with the first person. If they are asking its because they probably want to make sure they don't buy an outfit on that color for that day. I think it's fine to tell the guests what the color theme is if they ask. But if you want to keep it a secret thats up to you.

I agree with previous posters, there’s a chance guests are asking your colors because they want to avoid wearing them to your wedding. Are you not wanting to disclose your color choices because you want everything about your wedding to be a surprise? If that’s the case, and you don’t mind people wearing the same color as your wedding party (personally, this wouldn’t bother me at all), then you can definitely choose not to tell them. I would just tell anyone that asks that you aren’t disclosing any details of your wedding.

As others have stated, most guests like to know your colors so they do not dress in those same colors. There is generally no reason to keep your wedding colors a secret, but it is your wedding and you can do whatever you’d like. However, if you don’t tell people, and half your guests show up in your wedding colors, don’t get upset.

Is there a reason you don't want to disclose the colors? I personally let everyone know because like everyone said previously I don't want people matching my bridal party.

Some people ask so they can avoid those colors. If you do not answer, you may find 30 people matching if it is a popular color this season.

I think you've heard it plenty from the previous posts.... They probably just don't want to steal your colors for their own outfits.

Oh man I wish more couples would let guests know their wedding colors!! I know it’s not bad to wear the same color as the bridal party and probably pretty common since it’s usually seasonal color popularity but I don’t like doing it!


If you have a wedding website with a similar theme to your wedding then you can point them there or give hints if you’re wanting to keep it secret.

I'm might be the only one to agree with you because I've told people my wedding colors and so many of them was like oh I have a navy suit or oh let go out and find a teal dress. It's annoying.

I think that’s fine to share the colors with them to avoid it

I don't see whats the big deal. Some quest like to match the wedding theme or colors. At the end of the day it's your wedding.

I also had guests (mostly family) ask because they wanted to coordinate that into our gifts, or decorations for the shower they hosted. Of all the details to keep secret, I don't see why colors would be the one.

View Quoted Comment And that's exactly what is happening! They are saying things like "oh I saw a cute dress that color" or "I'm going to find something that color". It's not the point of being secretive. I just prefer my guests to not match my wedding party. Now if some come with the same colors of the wedding, it will just be a coincidence. And I'm fine with that. But do not intentionally do it. It's very annoying!

View Quoted Comment Yea I normally don't really comment on these post but I felt like everyone was saying "oh they just want to make sure they don't match" and I'm like I don't think that's what actually happening. Like I don't think it's fair that specifically picked a bridal party and is making them buy/rent specific outfits for everyone to look like the bridal party. They should be special.

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What?? Who does that? Super tacky . . . most people asked me because they didn't want to match...well our colors were black, navy, ivory and gold/champagne. and as long as no one's wearing ivory, i didn't care much. Black & navy are pretty neutral colors.

It's your wedding, you can do whatever you want! I would guess your guests are only asking so they don't wear the same color as the bridal party, not so they can wear it. I always want to know so I can make sure I don't match the bridal party, but that's just me.

If your guests are trying to match with your bridal party, i would not tell either! Just be very vague like, oh our colors are neutral or vibrant or warm or something like that.