Wedding Ceremony

So, although this situation may be a little bit different...I feel like it’s similar enough to comment for you.


My sister got married this year. They technically had 3 weddings. They got married at the court house, then went and got eloped in Ireland (just the two of them) & then a few months later held a small wedding, so the family could be a part of it.
Honestly, they had the family wedding FOR us. We were so happy they had a wedding that we were able to be a part of & witness.
I think their family and friends will definitely want to come and celebrate their love. Think about those who have vow renewals? People come.

I think if you're honest with people that you had to get married quickly due to immigration, but want a way to celebrate with them anyway, they'll treat it seriously. You could either just have a big reception, or have a ceremony of some kind (at which anyone could "officiate," without having to meet any state requirements for officiants).

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Thank you for the comments. Getting ammunition to discuss with bride's father. He keeps talking about "fake" wedding. I disagree.

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It is the "ceremony of some kind" that has us baffled. What to call it, how to make it like a wedding but toned down, etc. Father of the bride keeps saying it is a fake wedding. Who will come since they are already married.

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You say "Parents want a second ceremony," but then that the father of the bride says it is a fake wedding and no one will come. Is the father of the bride one of the ones who wants a second ceremony? If he is, then he needs to reconcile the things he is saying. If he is not, then the couple simply tells him they are having it for the people it matters to, and he need not attend. At that point, they can have anything from a ceremony that looks almost exactly like a wedding to something that is just a reception with no ceremony.

You can call it a vow renewal or a celebration of marriage if he is hung up on the "fake wedding" idea.

Im already married because we did a small ceremony for family and the closest of our friends but we are still doing the big thing. i dont think you guys will have an issue getting people to come just because theyre already married. you might find that many people dont know (a ton of my more distant family and friends still dont know and weve been married for six months). i think its a great idea because it still gives the overall experience to all individuals involved. good luck guys 💕

So he wants to walk his daughter down the aisle but is calling it a "fake" wedding. He needs to let one or the other go. If he doesn't want it to feel like a fake wedding, would he get on board with helping host a reception in their honor? He could still dance with his daughter, etc.