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Emilie
Beginner October 2021

Wedding ceremony help!

Emilie, on June 1, 2020 at 10:24 AM Posted in Community Conversations 1 19
Hi all! I keep going back and forth in my decision here so I’m hoping you all can help. Due to COVID, we’ve had to postpone our wedding from May originally, until September 2020


I keep debating if we end up having to postpone again if restrictions aren’t lifted, should we just go get married at the courthouse and have the wedding later? Would it be weird if we got married at the courthouse and then had a ceremony and reception afterwards when we can?
It’s always been my dream to walk down the aisle and have that beautiful ceremony, and we have a beautiful venue for both ceremony and reception for my dream wedding. I just don’t know if it would be weird if we got married and then had a ceremony anyway (walk down the aisle, vows, the whole deal) after the fact? I really don’t want to wait another year to get married if we have to postpone again.
Thanks for your help!

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Latest activity by Emilie, on July 30, 2020 at 10:08 AM
  • Tonilynn
    Dedicated September 2020
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    Honestly I think we will be ok in September I too was a May bride and now a September bride here in NC. I’m getting not far from you in Lake Lure. I spoke to my day of coordinator and she is doing two weddings in June with 65 people (outside wedding ). I know your fear as to I have the same but I’m also very hopeful. I don’t think it is weird if some reason you have to postpone to get married then so everything later on. I personally will be waiting it out even if postponed. I’ve waited over 6 yrs to marry this man whats another couple of months if I have to postpone.That’s just my outlook. So to answer your question it’s not weird but I think you won’t have to worry about that! Xoxo and good luck
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
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    I think let's say you did postpone again, i wouldn't find it weird to have a wedding later on. after all, you're still entitled to having the celebration you always dreamed of ya know?

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
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    We ended up doing a small minimony on our original date with just our parents and a few friends and postponed our wedding and reception a full year. Frankly our minimony was stressful and a bit of a disappointment, but getting to marry my husband was 100% amazing and I'm really glad we got married despite everything. I probably would have preferred to full on elope, just the two of us, an officiant, and photographer, but the minimony was the right choice for us given circumstances.

    If you really want to be married and not wait - I say do it. I particularly think a courthouse wedding or elopement can be really special if its just the two of you because it takes away some of the stress of dealing with other people.

    Now that we are married, I feel much less stressed about when our sequel wedding and reception get to happen. I really hope we can do it next year, but if we have to wait longer that doesn't bother me as much as it would if we were just postponing indefinitely and putting our lives on hold...

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  • Cristy
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    It's not weird at all to do that, and in fact a lot of couples are facing this because of the pandemic. Just be sure to call your celebration next year a "vow renewal" if you and FH do get married in September.

    We didn't want to get married without our VIPs, but due to the pandemic, most of them wouldn't have been able to come on our original date of May 30. So, we postponed a full year to May 29, 2021, in hopes that all of our loved ones can be present.


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  • Michelle
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    That is what we have decided to do. We are having a self-uniting elopement with just the two of us at the end of the month (we just got our license!) and then a big full on religious wedding with all the trimmings next year. It is totally acceptable to celebrate twice!

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  • Kendra
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    We were scheduled for May 23 and postponed to August 14. Decided to do 27 people in our original location and live stream people in, instead. I'm honestly just tired of planning and changing and want it to be done with. We might get together with family eventually to share pictures and videos, but that's it. I think I would keep your new date and just be ready to scale back if needed!

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  • Hanna
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    Nope, not weird at all to still get married on your original date (or new date, or any date for that matter) and to have the wedding later. That's what so many people are doing during these chaotic times! I think it will depend where you are located as to if you're able to hold a September wedding. I was supposed to attend two weddings in September and both have been postponed.

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  • Emilie
    Beginner October 2021
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    Thanks so much! I’m hopeful it will still happen. I hope yours doesn’t get postponed either! ❤️
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  • Emilie
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    That’s true thank you!
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  • Emilie
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    Yeah it is a crazy time so I don’t think anyone will blame me for it! I’m in New Mexico, and I’m worried the hotels won’t be at full capacity by then. But I’m hopeful!
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  • Emilie
    Beginner October 2021
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    I hear you on that one, going back and forth with everything is stressful in itself!
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  • Emilie
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    Awe congratulations!! That sounds so sweet, I might have to do this!
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  • Emilie
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    Good idea, thank you! 😄
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  • Emilie
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    Congratulations to you two! I agree, it’s stressful to have your life on hold especially when you don’t know when the wedding will be. If we end up having to postpone again I think we’re just going to get married and have the wedding whenever it happens, and not worry about it so much!
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  • Shariyahmom
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    We did that
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  • Emilie
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    Such a crazy time for weddings everywhere! Hope your big day is still just as special!
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  • Angel
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    Our August 16th wedding was postponed, but we're still getting married that day! Just us, our officiant, and my best friend who will be our photographer. We didn't want family or any more friends there, to keep the postponed celebration special, and also because of covid. I totally get where you're coming from about it taking away from the big day. I'm avoiding that by not doing anything too special for our minimony. Saving the vows, my dress, first dance, walking down the aisle, cake, etc. Most people didn't have to deal with a pandemic canceling their wedding, so if yours gets canceled and you choose to still get married, you get to celebrate your wonderful marriage twice Smiley smile I wish you the best, and really hope yours doesn't get postponed because I know how frustrating it can be. Smiley heart

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  • Angel
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    Not weird at all!

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  • Emilie
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    We were worried about the same thing. Who knows when all this will end. We decided we’re going to get married in my parents backyard. Not what we originally wanted, but we gotta roll with the punches!
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