Wedding Calendar Date Etiquette?

You get one day, they get one day. You're good!

Plan your wedding for whatever day you want!!!

Before we booked our date, I consulted with another couple - then friends, now not, about what date they were looking at. The future groom said summer or fall of the next year, so we booked the spring. After that conversation, his fiancee was quoted as saying to a mutual friend "we got engaged first, so we need to get married first." A few months later, they booked the night 2 nights before our date.

Both weddings shared one groomsman, so we paid for his tuxedo. And because of their scheduling, we had to have our rehearsal and rehearsal dinner the weekend before, so a travelling bridesmaid couldn't attend.

P.S. We didn't end our friendship because of that, it was something else. The groom has been doing dick moves, as long as we've known him.

It's not rude to do a week after! If it would be inconvenient for you I understand picking a different week. But they don't own weekends around their wedding. They get their day. There is nothing rude about picking the next weekend.

I agree with Mrs. fall Bride.

My best friend got married 2 months before me.

June was filled with showers. I had one of mine early (got married in Sept) because my SIL lives out of state and she was in town that week.

June and July went:

Her shower

Break

My shower

Her second shower (I didn't have to go but I did)

Break

Her bachelorette

Her wedding

Then I was super busy with invites and finalizing decor and seating chart for 3 weeks,

Then my bachelorette

Then my wedding 2 weeks later.

It was a lot of fun but for the 2 of us it as SO BUSY.

If you'd be invited to this couples Bach parties or showers or if mutual guests would be invited to both they could easily end up on the same day or you both will be so busy for the 2 months leading up to your weddings.

You each get one day which is true. But there are a lot of pre wedding festivities that may take place and it depends if you want to be at theirs and if you'd hate having guests decline because it's too many at once.

As a guest 2 weddings plus possible 2 showers and 2 Bach parties in a month or 2 would be too much for me.

Those are definitely great thoughts and I think that helps me make my decision. While my friends and I have been close to the groom for years, my fiance isn't as close to him and there shouldn't be any overlap on pre-wedding activity on the men's side. None of us know the bride that well, so there shouldn't be any on the women's side either. With that in mind, I feel a little better about potentially scheduling a date near theirs.

Luckily I'm still touring venues and I'm not so attached to a certain date that I would turn down a great venue over a date, so the issue might not arise. But I definitely thought this would be a good place to ask around, and I'm glad I did!

Just make sure that there is time for whomever gets married first to still honeymoon and come back. One of my best friends got engaged a week before me and she set her date right away so I was looking at either two weeks before her wedding or two weeks after since obviously we both wanted to attend both weddings! (And are in each other's weddings)

You get one day! I would maybe be concerned if it was for the same weekend if you guys are super close, but I think it's fine if the dates are a week apart.

Mrs Fall Bride said it best!

We have close friends getting married 2 weeks after us. It has made things hectic for our friends circle- particularly a groomsman in both weddings, but it's worked out and no one seems to mind

Not my best friend, but my brother was engaged 8 months before FH proposed to me, and his wedding is 3 weeks after mine. I asked him and his fiancée out of courtesy because I didn't want them thinking we were upstaging them, but explained life circumstances meant we wanted to get married sooner rather than later. Our showers and bachelorette parties have similar timeframes but it ended up not conflicting

Just keep in mind that if you plan for the next week, there's a chance your friends won't be able to be there if they'll still be on their honeymoon. I have some friends getting married the week before me and they can't come to my wedding because they'll still be on their honeymoon.

You both get one day:-) you're good!