Wedding Cake or Blah??

I think that cake looks lovely. Our cake came with the venue but we are also doing a desert table spread that is quite extensive. I think it's kind of nice doing both because we got to pick the cake flavor and didn't really have to consider everyone's tastes since there will be so much other dessert to pick from.

I think a smaller cake might be a nice compromise, it's less expensive for sure but it can still be displayed and help appease some of the more traditional guests.

My fh is not super involved with most decisions. Not because I don't let him, but because he doesn't care either way about most things. If he felt strongly about something, I'd let him have it, especially if it something like this. Does your fh have a lot of input on things? If no, I'd let him have it, if yes, then are there other things you guys aren't agreeing on? You can say "you get your way on this item and I get my way on this other issue".

We are having a cake, because our venue is pretty inclusive, so I can't give you advice about the later questions. I hope you work it all out!

We did a small, white wedding cake from Sam's so we had something to cut. About half was left. We also did cupcakes - also about half were left. We did a German chocolate cake (grooms) and there were about 4 servings left of it.. Then, we did cookies and most of those disappeared quickly.

My cake comes with the venue - but we are doing cupcakes. We are going to a 6" cutting cake, and then cupcakes. Bonus the baker that does this, also includes a free 6" cake one year after we get married so we won'tt have to freeze anything.

You should read up on this topic (there are tons of articles out there), and then talk to FH again about it. You will find that for decades now, wedding experts report that most of the time, as much as 60% of the traditional wedding cake does not get eaten, and is in fact thrown away. This happens for a variety of reasons, but is pretty consistent over time. This is one of the reasons I wanted to do what you are talking about: a small cake for cutting ceremony, then a dessert table for our guests. This will ensure that most of the dessert gets eaten, and we aren't wasting a bunch of money. Traditional cakes cost a lot of money. We will end up spending less for our desserts than what a traditional cake costs. I just can't afford for my dessert budget to go into the trash.

Mostly the traditional cakes are for show, which is fine if you can afford it. Another option there is to have a "fake" wedding cake (to look pretty and go with your decor), and just have the top tier be real cake for cutting. The downside to this option is again the cost.

I personally do not like nor eat cake but FH loves it. He said it was my choice to have one and feeling pressure from both my mother and FMIL we are having a wedding cake primarily for the show of "cake cutting" but we are having my favorite pie as sort of a "brides dessert" vs "grooms cake"

We didn’t do a wedding cake and I have zero regrets. We did a few individual sized desserts.

Thank you everyone- we came to a compromise- the venue that we are going with is going to provide a medium size cake with our package and we can still do the cupcakes and favors at the end of the wedding

I say if your hubby wants cake let him have the cake!