Mrs. J
Expert November 2013

Wedding band blues

Mrs. J, on August 27, 2013 at 11:57 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 41
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Hi Ladies..

So I am having a hard time with my wedding band. I love my e-ring. The jeweler made it by hand. It is low profile. Therefore my wedding band has to have a notch in it. I HATE THIS IDEA!!!! When I asked him how to get around this he said the only way is to change my e-ring and that he doesn't' recommend this as it will compromise the integrity of the ring (which I don't completely understand)...and I feel bad to change it. MY FH had it made, for me...

So what other choices do I have for a wedding band if I don't like the notched look? anyone?? HELP : (

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  • Out the Window
    Master May 2014
    Out the Window ·

    Can I see your e ring? What is the notch look?

  • Mrs. J
    Expert November 2013
    Mrs. J ·

    Im trying desperately to get my pics to load and they wont .. grrrrr

  • mrsrobinvalentine
    Master February 2014
    mrsrobinvalentine ·

    My wedding band is wide & my ring finger is rather small due to a childhood injury. So I planned on wearing my e-ring on my ring hand, after the wedding.

  • kysweetheart
    Super October 2013
    kysweetheart ·

    Idk exactly what you're talking about, but i think i've gotten some idea. here's what i would do...have your band be handmade also. you could make it like a cradle around your e-ring. why do you hate the idea of a notch in the band?

  • FutureMrsP
    Master October 2014
    FutureMrsP ·

    By notch do you mean a curve or do you mean an actual chunk of metal missing where the stone would slide in?

    Could you have a band custom made to fit? The jeweler that made the ring should be able to figure out to make the band fit without a missing piece of metal.

    I had the opposite problem - my wedding band is low profile w/ 3 stones and I had to find an e-ring that was high enough to have my band fit underneath. Anything is possible.

  • Mrs. J
    Expert November 2013
    Mrs. J ·

    Sorry gals.. I wanted to show you a pic so you could see and maybe help. But wedding wire's photo uploader seems to be broken.

    I appreciate your ideas.

    @Kysweetheart. I just dont love the notch. The jeweler who made my ering is making the band and he's suggesting the notched band so my ering sits flush with it. I have a small finger anyway so the ring with a big notch in it looks so bare and small and I could never wear it alone. I'd much rather have a regular band.

  • FutureMrsP
    Master October 2014
    FutureMrsP ·

    Do you like the bands that slip all the way around the e-ring?

    Would that be an option?

  • Mrs. J
    Expert November 2013
    Mrs. J ·

    Mrs. P, do you mean the curved bands?

  • FutureMrsP
    Master October 2014
    FutureMrsP ·

    No, not curved - they build a band that your engagement ring slips right into. I think it's called an enhancer...

    Since pics aren't uploading - this link has what I am thinking of

    http://www.jared.com/en/jaredstore/engagement---wedding/diamond-enhancer-ring-3-8-carat-tw-round-cut-14k-white-gold/100222/100222.100223

  • Mrs. J
    Expert November 2013
    Mrs. J ·

    Oh I know what you mean. Thats exactly what the single notched band would be like. And if i do settle for a notched band i would get 2. So it would almost be like an enhancer, just not attached.

    Then i saw this.. might be an option: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/any-size-4-rings-halo-or-solitaire#axzz2dBW4vYp0 (very first pic)

  • Mrs. J
    Expert November 2013
    Mrs. J ·

    Here is my ering


  • Mrs. J
    Expert November 2013
    Mrs. J ·

    PICS WORK YAY!

  • Stephanie
    Master November 2014
    Stephanie ·

    I have a low-profile ring that won't sit flush with a wedding band, and I also don't like curved or notched wedding bands (or enhancers). The jeweler kept asking if I was sure about how I wanted my engagement ring, since it's not going to sit flush to a straight "traditional" wedding band.

    I love my engagement ring and I love traditional wedding bands, and I'm gonna wear both of 'em even if they're not flush together. WHATEVER.

  • FutureMrsP
    Master October 2014
    FutureMrsP ·

    That criss cross band would be nice!

    Your ring is beautiful

  • Mrs. J
    Expert November 2013
    Mrs. J ·

    Mrs. P, thank you! I really do love my ring and it breaks my heart to change it. Maybe the criss cross is the answer.

    Stephanie, I hear you girl!!! I think I might just deal with the space issue too and get what i like... I think my jeweler is old school and he is acting like a space between rings is unheard of.. he's making it hard for me! lol

  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·

    FWIW, I'm really old school--was married for the first time in 1977. And it was common then to have a plain gold band for your wedding band, and a solitaire for your e-ring, which meant that the two would never sit flush. The idea that a wedding ring is supposed to sit flush against your e-ring is actually a relatively new idea.

  • Mrs. J
    Expert November 2013
    Mrs. J ·

    That makes me feel better 2d Bride.

    I wish I could find a unique wedding band that would look nice next to my ring.

  • Mrs. J
    Expert November 2013
    Mrs. J ·

    @Stephanie, have you picked your out yet? Can we see pics?

  • KM
    VIP November 2012
    KM ·

    Do your rings have to be next to each other? Mine aren't attached (they look very similar to the attached picture) and I actually prefer it. If I am going on vacation I can just wear my bands and don't have to bring my engagement ring.


  • Mrs. J
    Expert November 2013
    Mrs. J ·

    K, I love your rings.

    I dont think mine have to be next to eachother.. my jeweler apparently does. He's like the chef who wont give you a well done filet mignon!

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