My fiance and I come from a small town in Texas and our families are Mexican (this is background knowledge). For our wedding we have requested formal wear from our guest. Of course this is only a recommendation, we aren't forcing anyone but we would love to see everyone dressed up since we are already used to the whole cowboy boots, hat and starched jeans which is typical around here (even in weddings). Everyone is super for it and we only had the men mention wearing boots instead so we went ahead and told them that was okay. Everything was fine until last week when my fiances uncle told him his kids will be going to the wedding but he is not convinced yet since its formal and he doesn't like that. It made us both really sad because at the end of the day we could care less what he actually wears, its only a recommendation. My fiance tried to reason with him and let him know its no big deal but its like his uncle was waiting for him to change the attire recommendation completely or he is not going.
After the call, my fiance was visibly upset but after he calmed down he told me its fine because the people who are truly there for us wont care and will show up for us. I agree with him but I cannot help but feel so sad because his uncle is acting this way. Like should we have never put formal in the first place? Is it really too much to ask for? Sorry for the long post, I just have to vent a little
Side note, my fiances parents just got divorced so this uncle had told us he would take care of his brother (fiances dad) at the wedding to make sure tensions don't get too high. Now we will not have that help either.
