Wedding Anxiety

I think its wise that you are seeing a counselor. Its easier to call off a wedding than to get a divorce. You may also want to hang up the planning for a few days to get a breather, because wedding planning is stressful. Hugs my fellow bride and I pray that things resolve themselves quickly and your heart has peace.

Not sure if it is normal, I guess that would depend on the circumstances of the "rough patch." My fiance and I are getting married in 23 days and the stress of planning everything has put a little bit of a strain on us, but not so much so that I am having second thoughts about marrying him. If it is something like that, I would say that's probably normal. The good thing is that you have already taken steps to see a couples counselor. I would wait until after the session before you do anything hasty like calling off the wedding. The counselor can help you to explore the issues further to see if you guys are just stressed out because of the wedding and that is causing strain on the relationship or if there are actually fundamental relationship issues present that would be grounds for not getting married. Best of luck to you, I hope everything works out!

Are your second thoughts about the wedding or the marriage? I had second thoughts about our wedding because we had some drama arise with family throughout planning and I regretted not pushing for a smaller wedding (my second, FH’s first so I kind of let him rule on how big it would be). I never second guessed marrying him though. I definitely suggest seeing the counselor and going from there.

It's normal to feel nervous the closer the date gets but from what you're mentioning there seems to be more than just wedding day jitters so it's good you're going to couples counseling to see what the underlying issues are

The stress of the wedding and planning could very much be part of the issue. My FH and I have been a bit rough the last couple months as well but I know that it is my anxiety, stress and sense of being overwhelmed. I think it is great you guys are going to see a counselor! Its the best first step and good to calmly hear the other persons point of view with a mediator. Maybe take a few days for each other - a date night, do something fun, have some laughs. Put everything else on the back burner and try to really focus on yourselves and each other. Go from there. Best of luck - wishing you guys find peace and an eternity of love!

I think the couples counseling is great! I would just focus on that before making any big decisions. I bought several communication in relationship books and read them prior to our wedding. I think they were really productive!

If you're dreading the wedding, I think counseling and maybe moving the date are your best options. I wish you nothing but the best!

You are doing the right by going to counseling before making any big decisions. Planning can be stressful but if you’re second guessing actually getting married that’s a different thing. I would try to get a few counseling sessions in and then make a decision. Perhaps you could postpone your wedding for a bit while you work through things. Good luck.

No situation is the same but I had a lot of doubts about my first marriage and often wish I had just listened to that. We didn't go to counseling though and both made a lot of mistakes in our marriage after. Don't feel like you can't call off the wedding, feeling trapped is not a place you want to be when you make that kind of commitment to someone. Divorce is much harder. Hopefully it is something that can easily be worked on, but listen to your heart and your gut.

I’m sorry that you’re feeling this way. But I think you’re taking the right step with couples counseling. I honestly get how if you’re arguing the thought of “is this how it’s always going to be?” Can jump into your mind, but maybe take a small break from the planning and have a nice romantic weekend or dinner/date night along with the counseling to just take a breather. Continue with the counseling and I hope everything works out for you!

Definitely see a counselor but know wedding planning can be a big stress on a couple.