So my fiance and I just recently got engaged and instead of being overwhelmed with joy I am filled with anxiety. My mother and I don't get along at all! She always tends to make things about her, play the victim, manipulate, ad ruin joyous occasions. Over time I have learned to create boundaries and keep minimal contact with her. I do allow my daughter to speak with her and visit with her on occasion however. I was advised by my older brother to just send her a text letting her know I was getting married since she would probably find out eventually anyway. I was hoping she wouldn't show much interest but instead she keeps asking if I've picked a date and all of those usual questions bride's to be get. She has even expressed interest with helping with the planning (which is a hell no!) I am not sure if this gives her an excuse to reach out to me or what?! But it seems as though she is going to attempt to come when the time comes. I'm very close with my step mother and would love to allow her the honor of the mother of the bride but think that will set my mother off if she comes. What do I do?!!?! Do I not send her a formal invite? I'm afraid she will just come anyway. Do I allow my step mother to do the honor and risk the drama? Do I just cut out the family processional?
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