Wedding announcements

Umm..nothing? That's not the point of getting married and the fact that you think it is means that you should probably reconsider your priorities. You can send out marriage announcements after the wedding, but there should be no mention or expectation of gifts.

If you send a save the date, you have to send an invitation. Invite who you would like to invite. If people can't make it, sometimes they give a gift. Other times, they don't. Some people don't even bring gifts if they attend the wedding, as can be seen by several recent posts on this forum.

View Quoted Comment You’re joking, right? I 100% know that’s not the reason for getting married. I’m not having a bridal shower or anything.

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You literally just asked what you can send people to ask for gifts so no, I'm not joking.

View Quoted Comment I’m not “ASKING” for gifts, I have been told that people who can’t make the wedding sometimes send gifts and I was ASKING what I could send out for people I KNOW will not be able to make my wedding and WANT to send gifts. I never asked to be patronized.

I'd suggest sending out wedding announcements after the wedding. As a "Hey! We got married!" thing.
You could always choose to have a reception once you return home. And use the announcements as a reception invite.

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People who were invited and can't make the wedding do sometimes send gifts. It's not typical for people who weren't even invited to send a gift.

Wedding announcements are sent after the wedding. You can send a save the date but you would need to follow it with an invitation.

View Quoted Comment It’s mainly for friends and family who can’t make it.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!

View Quoted Comment If they “can’t make it,” that means that they were invited and unable to attend. If you sent them a save the date and invitation, you don’t need to send them anything else to let them know that you’re getting married and to buy you gifts.

View Quoted Comment Okay thank you so much for your help but you can quit commenting on my post.

Wait what?
I think I see what you're saying but your wording is maybe a bit off, definitely some more info needed. Confused when you say "would they expect an invitation to follow".
Save the dates 100% mean that person is someone you are inviting to your wedding. Even if you don't think they can make it, you still send people save the dates (and invites) to your wedding if they are people you want to have there. Save the date means "Save This Date On Your Calendar I Want You To Be Here."

Are you inviting all the people you'd invite if it was local, just not expecting many to come? Then there is no extra thing to be sent. You give them the save the date. You give them the invite. The invite will have a link to your registry/wedding website, if someone so chooses they can get you a gift.
Is your wedding list small? Just family and close friends being invited? If so, after the wedding you could choose to send out a little "We got married!" card to people who did not get invited. This is NOT a "Send us gifts" card. It's just announcing your marriage since your invite list was very small due to it being a destination wedding. You definitely shouldn't put any registry link on it. Some may choose to send you something, I wouldn't expect it though. IMO, if someone is thinking of your wedding enough to send you something without an invite, they're probably going to do it without a "We got married!" card, don't waste your money. The card is just supposed to be a nice thought, maybe for older relatives to put on the fridge and to see a wedding photo if they aren't social media people, so if that's not the goal you have in mind, maybe scratch the idea.

It sounds like maybe there are some stragglers that you're thinking of when you say "it's MAINLY for friends and family who can't make it." Who's outside of the friends and family invited when you say that? Is it that your invite list is a little smaller because it's destination, but it's still sizable, but you still aren't inviting a sort of "B List" of friends since you don't think they'd come anyways? If so, I don't think there's really anything to send to someone you didn't invite if the wedding was a normal size. I would find it kinda weird to get a "we got married" card if it wasn't an elopement or wedding with just close friends and family.

I know thats sorta long, to summarize...if they didn't get invited, you could send them a "We got married" card after. Don't link your registry to it. No invite = most likely no gift, definitely don't allude to the fact that you'd like one. If they were invited, they will have all they need to send a gift if they want to.

I'd be careful with the way you word things...if this is a conversation you're having with a few people irl, and someone says "Yeah, she asked me how to word a card to send out and ask people for gifts" (remember, weddings make people gossipy and put words in your mouth) I'd expect it to not go over well. It sounds like maybe you meant it as in a courteous sort of way, like "here's this info on my registry to make it easier for you". Anyone with the etiquette knowledge and the means/desire to not make it but send you a gift has the ability to find your registry. Anybody else doesn't need a card detailing how to give you a gift, they aren't gonna do it.

Best of luck! Send out save the dates really early if you can since it's destination. If you look up the etiquette on destination wedding invite time frames you should be good to go.

Hiya! I'm also doing a destination wedding but including everyone! Even the people who I know will not be able to make it, I sent them an engagement party invite as well as a save the date. I put our wedding website on the invites as well and we did get a few gifts from those who could not attend. As long as you put the wedding website info on there, you should have a registry tab included on the website and people will figure it out 😃

We included everyone on the invite lost because we didnt want anyone to feel excluded. I've heard horror stories of people who wouldnt have come anyway but felt slighted just because they werent invited.