Wedding Announcement Etiquette

Truly, we didn't do a formal, printed on paper-type announcement. We made it public via Facebook and Instagram, and texted and called our family and closest friends.

So, I can't offer much advice on how to go about wedding announcement cards but to honest, we've never received one either! Not sure how popular they are!

I'm pretty sure these are mainly used for elopements. If someone was not on your list to be invited to the wedding chances are they either A. Do not care themselves (almost everyone over estimates how much other people care about your wedding/engagement) or B. Do not need to have that fact thrown in their face in they DO care and be possibly insulted. Elopements are the exception because elopements tend to be jsut the bride and groom or the couple and immediate family only.

My advice - if youre not eloping/already married skip them. They will end up in someones trash and with FB/Social media nowadays people will find out that way. Same for engagements. No one needs to waste the planets trees

Our wedding is considered an elopement by some and intimate by others. Only having 12 guests. We’re sending annoucements because there are so many people who we would have invited if it was a traditional wedding.

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I don't know that they are super popular, but the invitation website had some cute ones that I loved so I wanted to kind of ask and see. So far it looks like I better skip it.

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I think you are right that these are more for elopements and small affairs. Your A vs B helped me see a lot of should I or shouldn't I as well. Of course the teacher of the class we met in wouldn't care enough to come to the wedding, but I think knowing that 2 of your students got married would be cute, but like you said, not worth the printing of an invitation. I think engagement announcements are similar in that people will find out one way or another and that people don't need to get a piece of paper. Would you suggest doing Christmas/New years cards as an alternative?

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I see what you are saying! While we are having a small-ER wedding, it includes everyone in our family and close friends, so announcments would really only be for aquaintances who don't care or need a paper telling them we got married. But for your 12 person wedding I think announcments are perfect!

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TBH - When you are engaged you need to reach out to anyone who should hear over the phone first (Family, most important friends ETC). This is what we did - we called everyone who we wanted to personally inform and then after a few days made it public on facebook. Anyone who cares enough to follow us on FB got to see it and anyone we cared enough about that we felt should know got a personal call or text. Theres no need for any kind of card IMO in this day and age. People use to send them out because there was no other easy way to communicate but its not necessary now.

If you want to send a christmas card to friends and family fine but it shouldn't be used as a lowkey way to replace an engagement announcement. Just call all your VIPs and tell them personally or do so in person, any one else not on that list will find out through the grapevine/social media - which is acceptable nowadays.

As for wedding announcements - presumably anyone who cares enough that they would want to receive one would be at the wedding. If you wanna send a christmas card with a wedding photo on it thats your choice but it doesn't specifically have to say "we got married yay". Just treat it like a Christmas card.

I wouldn't send formal announcements. We called our close family and I messaged my bff's and then we posted on FB that we got new karate belts and engaged.

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Absolutely! I plan on calling everyone about the engagement not making a post on social media or sending a card. A face to face or phone call is #1!

I meant more of Christmas cards for after the wedding as a - sort of - wedding announcement, because everyone receiving it would have been at the wedding anyways. Sort of an "our first Christmas as the Russells!" type of deal that says something like "marry X merry Christmas!" something cute like that.

View Quoted Comment Holiday cards may be a wonderful compromise to formally introduce yourselves as Mr and Mrs to your acquaintances that were not extended an invitation, but would not offend people who may have wanted to be invited to celebrate.

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Given your projected date is spring TBH you don't even need that. Anyone who you would send a card to would either be at the wedding or will have seen pics you post on social media. Plus again - most people won't really care - especially if they weren't invited. Those are cards that end up in the trash or looked at once and forgotten.

But honestly given your circumstacnes with your "engaged but not engaged" this isn't even something to be considering right now. Any kind of annoucement or christmas cards for a holiday a year an a half away should be a the very bottom of the list. Especially if nothing for a wedding for next may is even booked.

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I'm confused where did OP say she is engaged but, not engaged?

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It's from an older conversation! I don't know the exact thread but its been discussed a few times on previous threads from OP. Its just an interesting fact I remembered since people were kind of confused. I think she mentioned having a promise ring.

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Ahhh thanks for clarifying.

We won't be doing announcements after our wedding, but may include it in our Christmas card with a theme geared towards the fact that we got married. I think people usually send gifts to announcements if they didn't attend your wedding, so it might be weird to send them to people that weren't invited. It's a unique situation since everyone posts on social media that they got married. So I think it just depends on what you want.

Clipped again on WW... but we eloped, just the two of us, so family, friends and one to each of our employers... everyone that would’ve been invited to a full-blown wedding. The back of our announcement has a pic of us, a note and our website...