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wedding and ex in-laws

Annonymous, on October 24, 2012 at 9:26 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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I am relatively new here. I have responded to a few posts but I really could use some help. I am getting married for the second time and have run into a problem. One of my flower girls and one of my ring bearers is my niece and nephew from my first marriage. It has been a tradition that when someone in the family gets married the kids are involved. Even after my ex and I split his family involved our two girls and I am surrounded by my ex in-laws and they are a part of my every day life. My FH does not care for them because they don't keep their noses out of our business but when something goes wrong and we need a hand they do their best to help. I don't know whether to invite them to the wedding or not. My FH really doesn't want to have them there because they don't care for him but then again what do you expect, I was married to their son first. Help me please!!!!

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Latest activity by Catherine, on October 25, 2012 at 4:24 AM

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IrishLove™ · on October 24, 2012 at 9:36 PM
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I have my "wedding bible" and there are do and don't listed and one of the don't says don't invite and ex you don't want to make the other person feel uncomfortable. With that being said it is excellent you have a great relationship with you ex's parents and family BUT you are now marrying another man and if he doesn't feel comfortable with your ex husband's family then you have to respect his wishes and not invite them to your wedding. Sit down and explain to you're ex husband's family how your FH feels and tell them that you care deeply for them but you have to respect your FH wishes.
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2d Bride · on October 24, 2012 at 9:56 PM
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My ex-husband and his sister were at our wedding, so I clearly have nothing against inviting exes. But if they are not fully supportive of the new marriage, it's not a good idea to have them there.
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Zoe · on October 25, 2012 at 12:40 AM
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Between your husband not wanting them there (and it's his wedding, too) and them not liking him, I really can't see a case for including the girls. Certainly, everyone should understand.
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Catherine · on October 25, 2012 at 4:24 AM
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I would say invite them but maybe NOT have them as part of the ceremony.
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