Wedding and a funeral this weekend :(

I think people would understand missing theo ceremony in this case. if you can make it greaf but this is one of the exigent circumstances.

Reach out to the couple getting married and explain. I'm sure they'll understand and be happy that you'll still be there even if you miss the ceremony. Obviously the funeral isn't something you could have foreseen and its important for you to be there

So sorry OP! I would assume that the couple getting married would understand that you won't be able to make it to the ceremony, especially considering the circumstances. If you want to make both, I would definitely attend the funeral, and then head to the reception, if you both are feeling up to it!

First, I'm so sorry for your loss. I think skipping the ceremony is reasonable here, just make sure you warn the bride and groom ahead of time, so they're not expecting you then.

You are fine to miss the ceremony for the funeral. Let the couple know you will be late. I'm sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for your loss, OP.

I agree with PP who have said to contact the couple. If the funeral and ceremony start at the same time (and the venue is an hour away) you may not make it to the wedding at all. Either way I am sure you will be missed and the couple will understand, just communicate with them.

Thank you wire community!

I would reach out to the couple. I'm sure they will be fine with it, as this definitely wasn't something you saw coming. I am sorry for your loss- my condolences!!

My FH wants to go to the wedding. I told him it would be completely understandable to not go but he's not very emotionally invested in his family the way I am.

Awww, I'm sorry OP! My best friend's grandfather passed away the week of my wedding and the wake was the day of the wedding. She opted to miss the wake because she wanted to stand with me at the wedding, but her parents (who were like a second set of parents to me growing up) went to the wake and were planning to come to the reception after. They ended up not making it because her father was too distraught, and we didn't blame them in the least. We went to their house the day after the wedding to pay our respects

I think the funeral should be your priority. The couple will have to understand. You cant predict these things. Also numbers don't matter as much for a ceremony as they do for the reception due to catering costs. And if you don't make it, you don't make it. Since it is your FH's grandfather I would think you'd have to be at funeral events all day.

Thank you everyone. I called the bride and groom and explain the situation and they are more than understanding. His grandfather only wanted a simple memorial service, not a huge wake and funeral. So he wants to attend both and if he is up to both then both it shall be

My condolences. I agree with letting the bride and groom know you will be late . They will most likely understand.

Sorry for your loss! I'm sure the couple would understand.

First off, I am very sorry for your loss. Second, explain to the bride and groom why you would have to be late (if at all) and if they don't understand then oh well. Nothing in your control.

So sorry to hear this. I agree with PP's: Do both if you WANT to and you can. Inform the couple ahead of time if you will be late or have to change your RSVP to decline. I think/hope most people would understand. A close aunt through marriage has RSVP'd no to my wedding because her mother is very ill and she doesn't want to be 3 hours away from her for an entire weekend in case of the worst (my uncle will still attend). I am, of course, saddened that she won't be at my wedding but I can't imagine leaving my own mother if the situation was reversed.

Where my family comes from, legend has it that someone will become pregnant soon if the person getting married and the person who dies is related. However, I think that they would understand if you could not make it. Just be decent enough to tell them in advance so they know and understand the circumstances.

God I hope not Tracey W lol. Absolutely no kids for us.