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October 2021

Wedding after elopement

Mikayla, on March 9, 2020 at 2:28 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
Hey everyone! So I got engaged this past Christmas. We've been planning our big wedding for October 2021 (for financial reasons, it can't be sooner). However, I ended up getting pregnant and so now we want to legally get married. Our plan is to get married legally at the end of this month, by eloping, but everyone knows what we're doing. But we still want to have our big wedding next year October because we both come from big families and want our families to be there celebrating our marriage. Like, we don't only want a reception then but we want a "ceremony" too with groomsmen and bridesmaids and the whole shabang, so we can include all our family and friends in this special time of ours! However, I don't know the etiquette... Is that okay to do? Will people think that's stupid? I think that day will be just as special as the day we actually get married, especially because we will be able to celebrate with our family and friends! I just don't know how other people will feel about it.

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Latest activity by Katy, on March 10, 2020 at 9:07 PM
  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    I think it’s fine to do that but it’s not a “wedding,” it’s a vow renewal. You can do everything exactly the same just don’t call it a wedding because that’s misleading. You can phrase the invites like “you are invited to the celebration of marriage of mikayla and (husband)” or something.


    Congrats on the engagement and the baby!!
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  • Futuremrsm
    Expert October 2020
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    It wouldn't really be a wedding ceremony since you'll already be married. It would be more of a vow renewal, which you can have all of the typical wedding stuff with
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  • Jasmine
    Devoted May 2021
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    I think you should and can do and call it it whatever the heck you want! If anyone gives you lip tell them “ don’t mess with the pregnant lady” lol congrats
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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    There's absolutely nothing wrong with everything you have in mind. Even though this will be a vow renewal rather than a wedding, it can still have just as many "wedding" aspects to it! The only time this situation can go against etiquette is when a couple is hiding the fact that they're already married from their guests and saying it's a wedding when it's really a vow renewal. But like you said, everyone already knows you'll already be married so you're in the clear!

    Congratulations to you both on your upcoming marriage and bundle of joy!

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    It’s fine to have a vow renewal, but it isn’t a wedding.
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  • K
    Savvy August 2022
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    We are doing this (we were transparent about getting legally married first and why) and called the big wedding a “celebration of our wedding” on the invites. Like you, we are doing the whole shebang with a ceremony and vows, reception and dancing etc. Everyone has been super supportive! I say go for it!
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