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Just Said Yes August 2020

Wedding after baby

Ashley, on June 11, 2020 at 8:19 PM Posted in Community Conversations 1 20
Hi! I was wondering if it is tacky to have a dream wedding after a baby? We were supposed to get married this August but switched it to next August because of coronavirus. I just found out I'm pregnant though. All our vendors and the hotel were awesome about switching but we can't get our deposits back. I really wanted my dream wedding but I'm worried it will look tacky now.

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Latest activity by Judith, on June 13, 2020 at 11:53 AM
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Congratulations on your pregnancy! I don’t think it’s tacky to have your dream wedding after having a baby
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    Why are you worried it would be tacky?
    I don’t see an issue with it, I’ve been to weddings where the couple had toddlers and didn’t think twice about it.
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  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
    Nefetera ·
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    Congratulations...do what work best for you...no that's not tacky...not at all
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  • Kerin
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    Kerin ·
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    Not tacky at all, and congratulations on the pregnancy! 🎉🎉🎉
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  • Michelle
    Devoted November 2022
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    Congratulations! I have been to weddings with adorable babies/toddlers of the couple. Just make sure you give yourself extra grace/time on the day since you will be new parents too.

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    Ashley ·
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    Thank you all!


    I should have mentioned that my very strict mother, who is not happy I'm pregnant now, mentioned it would be tacky. I know she will come around but it's been difficult.
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    Champion June 2019
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    Not at all. Congrats on the baby! I think it's actually perfect timing... you'll be enough past giving birth that you (hopefully) wont be too exhausted and your body will have started to bounce back a bit after the pregnancy so you have plenty of time to get re-fitted and can feel good in your dress, AND your baby will get to attend your wedding. Think of the gorgeous family photos you'll get! Smiley smile

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  • Kelsi
    Expert June 2020
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    Congratulations!


    Please breathe. Tensions are always so high with family members and weddings. Especially with traditional parents. As long as you’re happy, there is nothing tacky or wrong about the way you guys are becoming a family!
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  • Erin
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    My fh and I have a 3 year old together, and we're planning a smaller wedding due to budget, (but still planning on having it be a beautiful day} not because we feel it'd be "Tacky". Have the wedding you want, screw the naysayers. It sounds like your strict mother is grouchy that you got pregnant "out of wed-lock" and is taking it out on your wedding.

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  • Nefetera
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    I see....understanable on why u have doubts however it's you and your husband choice noone elses
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  • Rebecca
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    Have your wedding, and congrats on the baby!

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  • Elizabeth
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    Congratulations! Best wishes!!

    I don't think it's tacky at all. The whole children-before-marriage thing is becoming more and more common and while it isn't for some people, it also isn't their place to judge your life. People will be happy to see you happy and that's all that matters.

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  • Serenity
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    Girl no! My wedding is next October and my baby is due in August I’m still moving fwd with my dream wedding I just add my baby in it! A baby shouldn’t really stop anything or make anything look tacky! I think it’ll be a great idea to add him or her to your wedding next year in some cute way! Don’t let that whole timeline of when things should be done make you feel no type of way! Enjoy your pregnancy and your wedding! Congratulations on your pregnancy & engagement btw!
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    I don't think it's "tacky," but what matters is how much it will bother you if some of your guests are unsupportive. Given that your mom is voicing her opinion, I'd think about how likely it is that other potential guests will have similar views; then, the big question is how much will it bother you if they do? Generally, marriages after a couple has one or more children are pretty common, but if your social circle is more traditional there could well be people who find this more surprising, and, unfortunately, "tacky".... That's their problem, but it doesn't mean it might not impact you/hurt your feelings. If you and FH are happy, and you don't really care what others think, then enjoy your plans! Best wishes!

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    I dont think so. Everyone understands you had no control over the postponement. I mean everyone has an opinion and theres always gonna be one that thinks you have to wait til youre married to have kids so you just probably have to be prepared to ignore some opinions. And hey at least you wont be pregnant anymore by then so you can wear whatever dress you want!
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  • Gloria
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    I don’t think that it’s tacky at all! Congratulations!
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  • Kelsey
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    That is not tacky whatsoever!! Even more of a reason to celebrate. Congratulations!
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  • Katie
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    Congratulations on the baby!! Absolutely have your dream wedding too!! You have this life to live and place as much joy in it as possible! I’m sorry your mom has a difference of opinion, however, I hope in time she will come around to understand both her daughter’s wedding and a new grand baby are wonderful blessings many wish they had. She is lucky to have not one but two amazing events in a time when so many are suffering. I wish you happiness and yes, have that dream wedding!!
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  • Danielle
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    Not tacky at all! We have two kids, my youngest is almost 2, and we are just now about to get married 😁
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    People know about coronavirus, and pretty much feel sorry for those who reschedule, and give them a lot of latitude. There are alwas a few inflexible, my way or not at all type people. This is a good test, to remove such people from your life.
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