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Wedding Affair

Lyra, on September 14, 2022 at 10:46 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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While I was home for the weekend I ran into a friends husband and he told me that they were no longer together because of an affair that my friend had. They married years ago and I lost contact with her after the wedding, she had a falling out with another friend and got the idea that the rest of our friends and I had sided with the other friend. But the week leading up to the wedding I learned that she was having some sort of fun with her coworker. I didn’t pay much attention to it until the night before her wedding that she let me read some of her messages with her coworker and from what I read it seemed as if they were getting it on lol. Not only that but a friend did notice that she did go into someone else’s room that night and during her wedding reception she disappeared for a while. After hearing that from her former husband I feel that I could have said something to her back then.

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Latest activity by Michael, on September 15, 2022 at 6:40 PM

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mrswinteriscoming · on September 14, 2022 at 11:20 PM
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I don't think you should worry yourself about what you did or didn't say to your friend back then.
Your friend was a grown adult at the time who was responsible for their own actions.
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Michael · on September 15, 2022 at 12:44 AM
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About the only thing you could have done was object to the union at the ceremony or have told the then-fiancé about it. While that apparently would have been good, it takes more guts than I could imagine. Otherwise, you could only have hoped this was a last moment fling before committing to marriage. That proved not to be the case.
Really, the bride should have called it off. The fault is her own. I cannot imagine the later divorce was any better than just canceling the wedding.
It is sad she put you in the middle.
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Shannon · on September 15, 2022 at 3:33 PM
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It’s better to stay out of situations like that because you are likely to get caught in the crossfire.
Cheating at your own reception is BEYOND.
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Thomas · on September 15, 2022 at 6:29 PM
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I don’t think I would have said anything about it; at least not directly. The blowback on that is oftentimes worse than what was being avoided. That would be a tough situation.
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Michael · on September 15, 2022 at 6:40 PM
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How would the officiant response if given the information about all this stuff beforehand? It would have been tricky finding out discreetly who the officiant was and then the issue resolved that way. But again, the information you had at work was only enough to wonder if this was a last moment fling (which still is not very good). I would not likely have thought of that option in the circumstances.
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