Kellie Martinez
Super October 2019

Wearing White to Your Wedding

Kellie Martinez, on March 10, 2020 at 5:23 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 17
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Did anyone wear white/off white/etc to your wedding? I was watching a talk show and they were discussing a woman who was too afraid to confront her mother-in-law for planning on wearing white on her big day. Personally, I wasn't too worried about my guests but I would not have been surprised if my mother-in-law did. (long story. sadly, her and my husband have never had a good relationship and are currently not speaking.) but funny enough.. my GRANDMA was the one who did it hahaha. It was SO cute! I didn't even think about it. I know it can be extremely upsetting but I have to be honest and say it didn't bother me. What was your experience?


(it was a disney themed wedding that is why she is wearing ears :p)


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Latest activity by MIWM, on March 28, 2020 at 1:10 PM
  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    My FMIL wore white to one of her son’s weddings. For the others she’s been known to wear black. No one really noticed or cared
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    That’s so adorable !
    I don’t recall anyone in white but I was at a wedding yesterday and saw a couple of ladies in white. I think it’s ok to wear white but it’s just moreso like don’t be in some long white gown that could make you look like a bride. If you’re gonna be in white it’s ok if it’s more of a short semi formal dress or more casual looking or has patterns on it. But if it’s gonna look just like a wedding gown or something, then no
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    No one wore white to our wedding, but I honestly wouldn’t have cared.
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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
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    It's so weird because when I was engaged I read stories about brides freaking out all the time and I have seen it on the news and talk shows very recently but no one I have ever talked to on wedding wire or my friends in real life seem to care. (including me lol)

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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
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    Right? my mom jokingly called her out and she said "its eggshell I look good!" and my grandma lost SIXTY pounds the year leading up to my wedding I think she was excited to show it off.

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  • Kellie Martinez
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    My mother-in-law almost wore black but she agreed to a gold gown to match my mother. I only cared because I wanted them to match but I wouldnt have not included her in things if she showed up in the black dress haha

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    Your grandma sounds like a fun lady
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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
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    I’ll be curious to see what she wears to our wedding. It is casual, beachy so definitely no formal wear.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    My grandma almost wore white lol. She was having me and my mom help her pick dresses out from a catalog and she kept saying she wanted to wear this white one and we kept saying “you can’t wear white, you’re going to look ridiculous” and she kept saying “oh no one cares what the grandmother is wearing!” and I’m like alright if it doesn’t matter that much then why not just wear something else.....? 🤦🏻‍♀️😂 we eventually convinced her to get a different one
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  • Julie
    VIP February 2020
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    I had a black and white party! Most people ended up wearing black, but my bridesmaids and one cousin wore long white dresses. It was fun! (Major detail...I was in lavender)
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  • J
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    Traditional etiquette is that no one wear a white dress that looks bridal. That means, at a formal black tie or white tie occasion, no white gown s at all. But at less formal ones, if a bride is in lace or satin or tulle or chiffon, and someone wears a pantsuit, whether tailored or boho, white or cream are fine. If the ride is in a long formal dress, anyone in a shorter white dress, or a mostly white print in a Non- bridal fabic is fine, as is anyone in a white of cream skirt and jacket suit. It is only when you get least formal, bride in a skirt or pants suit, or cotton sateen or eyelet dress, or a short white outfit, that no white dresses are allowed again. Because any would be either the same as the bride, or more formal than hers. Not allowed.
    The pictured one of a mother in a pantsuit in a distinctly unbridal look, where , lace is boho not bridal, is an example of a fine look if you want day casual and white, that is okay because there is note a thing even remotely bridal about it. ..........So don't be upset if family or guests are wearing white, ivory, or cream, unless it is bridal in fabric and overall cut or the impression it leaves. MOB and MOG are sort of the Queen's of a wedding, and the wearing of dressy woven jacket and dress or skirt and jacket suits, cream or white, often but not always with a trim in gold, or another color, is actually very common in much of Europe, and many American families who come from these countries. Like in fairy tales when princes and princesses marry, queens are in different more mature styles. But their gowns may be off -white,cream or ivory with just color in the trim and fasteners, and their royal furs mostly white. So other family or guests are not automatically an issue wearing white. It is looking like the bride or more formal and bridal, that is not polite. I have seen a few people in prom if not bridal whites, long, lace etc. Attention seekers. And mostly they got a lot of pointing, laughter, and not very subtle jokes. "Maisie, didn't you read the invitation? You are not the bride today. Go change. " With a hahahaha from all nearby. The bride need not worry. Or do anything.
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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
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    Honestly I don’t recall but I guess it’s because it wouldn’t have bothered me. Nobody is going to confuse a guest with the bride.
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  • Kellie Martinez
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    That is exactly what i always said too. I feel the same way about people having all or specific bridesmaids not wear makeup because they don't want their friends/family to outshine them. Not possible. I had all of my bridesmaids' makeup done professionally because I wanted them to be all glam and feel as beautiful as I did! There is nothing wrong with a group of beautiful woman it never just has to be the bride.

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  • Kellie Martinez
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    Thanks for explaining that I never knew all of that. I would definitely respect another bride's wishes I just wouldn't care personally even if it was bridal in fabric, etc. Smiley smile

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  • Kellie Martinez
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    I actually have been loving that lately. The all white bridesmaids and the bride in color. so unique!

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  • Savannah
    Savvy June 2020
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    She is the cutest omg😍
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  • MIWM
    VIP June 2019
    MIWM ·
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    I feel that wearing a white dress to someone's wedding is disrespectful unless the bride says otherwise.

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