Wearing a wedding dress when getting married again

Any reason he wishes you to other than he hasn't seen it?

I would honestly go with what makes you comfortable. If he's doing it to save money, I can see his angle -- but I can also see how it might be odd for you. While your first wedding didn't end in divorce, it was not the happiest outcome for you. The reason that he hasn't seen it might not be enough for you to be comfortable enough to put the dress back on and that's alright.

If you want to wear your previous dress, do it. Your wedding. If you think that you'd be more comfortable getting another dress, he should understand and you should be able to do so. Don't feel like you have to go one way or the other, though. Be honest with yourself and what you'd like to do.

I think you should do whatever makes you feel comfortable. Personally, I don't think I could wear the same dress again. Like PP said, it isn't like your marriage ended in a divorce, but wearing the same dress for your second wedding might cause some unnecessary heartache. If he wants you to wear it just to save money, there's plenty of options other than that, especially since your wedding isn't for another year and a half.

I agree with PPs that it boils down to what you want. I would be concerned that you would feel very sad wearing the same dress because it will remind you of your first husband. However, as long as you're comfortable, wear whatever you'd like

I think your FH is indirectly saying you can honor your deceased hubby by doing this if you feel comfortable. I think this is really sweet but I would understand how that could make you feel a little uneasy.

Um, no. That's weird. Maybe he hasn't seen it, and his family hasn't seen it, but your family and friends have seen it. This isn't a do-over. You're committing to someone else. I would want to start fresh with everything, including a different dress.

Upvoting the majority here, if you feel comfortable, confident, and happy in that dress, then I say go for it. I can definitely see the perks of saving money and already having a dress you love!

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This times 100% It sounds like (in a way) giving a woman your dead first wife's engagement ring. NO NO NO. Get a new dress. New marriage, new dress. Save your $$ elsewhere.

I would get a new dress. Maybe you could incorporate something from the old dress into the new one! My view is that this is a new marriage and fresh start with your lives together. You may think you would be okay, but with high emotions the day of, seeing yourself in the first dress may bring up unexpected feelings that you wouldn't want to have on wedding day!

Best of luck to you!!

I f you would feel happy wearing the dress again, your dress for getting married in, Do it . If it makes you feel special and beautiful, why not? There are good things and good memories of your first marriage that are now a part of you. You are not the same person as before. And if you are happy bringing that history with you, and adding 20-40 years of a happy marriage to it, he will love the person you are now, and the dress. Only change if you would be uncomfortable. There is no rule or reason why you must have a unique dress. Except to keep the wedding dress industry happy. Do have some single thing, a veil or a lace jacket or something you carry, or jewelry, that is specifically for your current t groom. But otherwise, you really wear a particular dress because you want to. To your groom, you will look beautiful in any gown . He is marrying you, and all your history, not a dress.

I lost my first husband after 3 months. My husband now accepts that that first love and marriage is a part of who I am now.