We Postponed Our Wedding

Yeah, that would be rude, unless you're now having a tiny wedding. Like 1/10 of the original size.

If you downsize to immediate family only I think that's okay.

If you downsize to 50, not okay.

Yep agree with PP. All or <20 people

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I think it depends on how far apart these two wedding dates are. If they are within the same year, yes, it's probably rude to cut down the guest list.

I think it these two dates are more than a year apart, it is more of a separate event, and you could probably have a smaller wedding.

Sounds like maybe you really want to cut it way down to just immediate families?

This is kinda what we did but we didn't get as far as sending out invitations. We got engaged and then planned the wedding right away. But we ended up pushing it out and waited a whole yr. First we had 150+ guest and now it's about 35-40 which is our immediate family and original bp. However we are doing a Celebration of Love in October which is just going to be a big party with extended family. If you are keeping it smaller and just want your close friends and family then go for it. Things change and you just have to do what's best for you. Inviting 75 of the 100 may rub some people the wrong way but do whatever you feel.