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Arlene
Devoted March 2020

We did it !

Arlene, on April 14, 2020 at 5:41 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 22
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I never deleted the app and I know I wrote a last post stating that we were doing something small and intimate and post poning the big wedding.

For those who didn't see, my mother unexpectedly passed in January so I canceled my big wedding for time to grieve as I was and still am having a very hard time. We decided to do a civil court wedding in Santa Barbara instead and do a big wedding with our huge family and friends in a year or so when the time was right to where I can enjoy being around everyone instead of sulking and crying . I did not feel I could do such a big wedding when I was in my depression of losing my mom but end of the day wanted to still marry my best friend. Well due to COVID 19 our wedding was canceled the civil one and even the big one would of canceled either way so it’s crazy how things happen. Luckily! since my husband worked at the court house in Ventura County they informed him that it would be closing and advised him to get his marriage license that same day. so I got off work early and ran over!! We got it just in time before courts closed to public and our chaplain/officiant of the big wedding agreed to do it at a local church that was still open which we beat because it closed the next day! We were blessed to get married on our 5 year anniversary, the little details and stress no longer mattered and it made me realize the stress of big planning was no longer worth the stress as long as we got married!! I felt my mom there with us too and as hard as it was without her, I felt her.
It also gives me time to get things together while grieving, save more money and lose more weight. End of the day I don’t care I’m happy we made it happen and happy he convinced me to leave work early to get the license. Marriage life is great feels the same since we been living together and raising a son my newly official step son. It feels more intimate and official, I can’t wait to grow our family and next year or so plan the big one again when my grieving is better and Covid settles.
Hope you all are well during this time!! Just wanted to share and shed light that in dark times always prevails light and happiness!!We did it ! 1


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Latest activity by Jamieka, on April 20, 2020 at 8:13 PM
  • Emily
    Super August 2020
    Emily ·
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    Gosh what a beautiful story and couple ❤️Congrats to you two!! You looking stunning, I wish I had your freaking hair it’s so long and luscious!!
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  • Chelsea
    Devoted October 2020
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    Congratulations!! Take each day at a time and may your marriage and new family be blessed. ❤
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  • Erin
    Dedicated December 2020
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    Beautiful couple. Congratulations❤️
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  • Kirsten
    Devoted October 2020
    Kirsten ·
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    I love it! So many congratulations to you and your new family!!
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  • Arlene
    Devoted March 2020
    Arlene ·
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    Thank you so much everyone !! I appreciate the sweet words more than you all know Smiley heart

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  • Sharon
    Expert September 2021
    Sharon ·
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    Absolutely beautiful!! Sometimes things happen the way they're meant to mot the way we expect them to. I know your mom was there with you.
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  • Holly
    Dedicated October 2020
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    CONGRATULATIONS!! What a wonderful, happy ending
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  • Fenja
    VIP December 2020
    Fenja ·
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    This is the kind of happy ending that is making the world such a great place! Congratulations and all the best in your marriage!!

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  • Sharon
    Dedicated April 2021
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    CongratulationsSmiley ring

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  • Taylor
    Dedicated June 2020
    Taylor ·
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    You look beautiful and I love your hair!! Thanks for sharing your story. Congratulations!!
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    Oh my gosh!! I'm so glad you ran when he called! A huge congrats to both of you!! Smiley ring



    We did it ! 2

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  • Ieshia
    Savvy January 2021
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    Congratulations! May God Bless your union!!

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  • Belle
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    Wow.... What a timing! Congratulations!


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  • Robyn
    Savvy June 2020
    Robyn ·
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    Congratulations - sorry to hear about your mother, but I'm happy to hear that you were able to find some joy again in uniting with your husband.

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  • Rebecca
    Rockstar August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Congrats! It was so wonderful of your husband's coworkers to think of you two!

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  • Grace
    Savvy April 2021
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    Congratulations Arlene and to your SO! All's well that ends well indeed! Such a beautiful story! Xo

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  • Jai Butcher
    Rockstar May 2020
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    Congrats! You look beautiful and happy!
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  • Gayla
    Savvy June 2020
    Gayla ·
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    You and your husband look absolutely meant to be together! And girl, you could be a hair model. Seriously gorgeous. I’m so happy that all the little details came together for you at the last minute. Funny how God works that way. ❤️ Rest assured that your mother saw you get married and that she continues to be with you. I’m sorry you are hurting right now, but you will see her again. Peace and love to you.
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  • Lauren
    Savvy May 2020
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    You're so beautiful!

    I know it's hard to see sometimes, but God's plan has been guiding you and your family the whole time. Your mom would be so proud and so happy for you! She'll never leave your side Smiley heart

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  • Kari
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    Yay so happy for you and so much needing to hear these happy stories! Congrats!

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