We cant afford to invite everyone wecast solution?

You're not a monster. Your budget is your budget. Some people will be disappointed and maybe even upset but generally people understand. I think offering the webcast is a great way to keep them involved

You can only invite those you can afford to host. Do NOT invite more people than your venue can hold. As far as the webcast, I am not sure. I think this is a know your crowd type of situation but I could imagine some people would still be offended.

Woah, OK, first of all, if you can only host 35 people, you can only invite 35 people.

Don't webcast. You can have a video made for people who want to see it at a later date. Also, doing a backyard wedding is often WAY more expensive than a venue.

Let it go. Most people think that other people are going to be more upset than they actually are.

Invite who you can and leave it at that.

When my oldest daughter got married she only had 9 guests for a total of 11 people including herself and her husband. We have a pretty big close family but only had immediate members there (parents and siblings). People were disappointed they didn't get to celebrate with them, but no one was offended. You don't need to beg for forgiveness. People understand more than you think.

Do not invite more people then you can afford to host or fit at your venue.

I honestly doubt people will take the time to watch your wedding online.

I am going to be honest, I can't imagine sitting at home and watching people get married. I wouldn't do it. But I also would understand if I wasn't invited. If you have to spend any extra money on a webcast then I would not do it. I would invite parents, grandparents, and sibblings (if it is less than 35) and would not invite anyone else. If you invite some aunts/uncles/cousins but not others then that is where hard feelings will come in. At least that is just how I would see it.

The webcast is a bad idea. No-one is THAT interested in your wedding. You may come across as self-important by doing that. Have your 35 guests and host a lovely wedding. If anyone gives you grief over not being invited, just say "we weren't able to invite everyone we wanted". It's the truth, after all.

If you can only afford 35, then you only invite 35.

Don't over-invite and bank on declines, because that's just a recipe for stress on your part.

Thanks everyone! Lots of opinions that will help me convince the groom to cut down the list. And maybe for a few older folks that we love who can't travel because of health and would treasure a way to join and just leave it . I work in tech and one of my guests is a Microsoft engineer so the tech would be free over Skype or something like that.

Webcast definitely works just make sure you have a strong internet connection (you mentioned remote so that could have a not so reliable wifi connection). Also know that as some of the other ladies said people may not want to do this but the ones who really really want to be there but can't may get excited about this being an option.

I think having a wedding with 35 people without a webcast is perfectly fine. Good friends and family will understand that the venue can only accommodate 35. If they don't then that's on them, not you!

My dad's oldest sister calmed my nerves about the same thing when I was upset because I want 2 of my cousins there (they're like big sisters to me) But we can't accommodate ALL our dozens of cousins. She said, "Honey, love the people who love you. I'll make sure the family knows it's a very small wedding with a limited number of seats. Everyone will acknowledge you got married and then carry on with their lives."