FutureMrs.Sanchez
Dedicated November 2017

We are not on the same page....

FutureMrs.Sanchez, on February 9, 2017 at 12:23 PM Posted in Planning 0 14
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My fiancé and I are not on the same page about what's important and what isn't, she's into asking for help and booking friends as our vendors. I AM NOT. We have the money, it's just a matter of budgeting and because of a recent pay cut I'm taking on more financially which I am happy to do, I don't mind at all but I just need for her to understand how important things are, none of her sisters have gotten married, she has four, I'm the oldest of two and it's the first wedding on my side. I like there to be formality to things and plan ahead so I can get things done correctly, I've been to several weddings and yes have different taste then most but I also know how to save and budget to cover it so I don't see what the problem is!? I want her to feel included and enjoy this so much, but every opinion goes against doing things correctly and I've run out of patience and saying things politely. She's amazing and I know we both mean well I just don't know how to get us on the same page.

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Latest activity by Kate, on February 9, 2017 at 1:50 PM
  • Keke
    Super August 2017
    Keke ·
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    Can you compromise

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  • Keke
    Super August 2017
    Keke ·
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    Also explain to her that you want the guest to have a good time and not have to work at your wedding maybe that will help

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    Don't compromise on friendors. Just say no.

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  • FutureMrs.Sanchez
    Dedicated November 2017
    FutureMrs.Sanchez ·
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    Thank you and we have plans to sit down over dinner and talk things through this Saturday. I don't think she quite understands the importance of a contract, I've been doing all of the research and reading of the contracts and when I do send them to her to review she tells me she'd rather wait to read over them together, lol. So yeah..ugh! Still crazy about the girl though, gotta love the whole package right?

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  • SageTree
    Super July 2017
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    What Mrs L.Mac said!

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  • Keke
    Super August 2017
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    You are unique lol. Usually the woman is more organized. But my FH and I sat down and went over budgets. He knows what I want to spend and he knows what he has to save to get us there. It was actually fun to do. He hasn't been very involved his best man has been a bigger help.

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  • FutureMrs.Sanchez
    Dedicated November 2017
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    Yeah no compromising on friendors. I just can't take the risk, I can't. Thank you @Nikki I'll pull up some articles and have them ready for this Saturday's wedding planning date! That's a good idea.

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  • FutureMrs.Sanchez
    Dedicated November 2017
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    @Nikki, yeah she suggested her sister should take the pictures which is also her maid of honor. Lol. The logic cracks me up most of the time, we are about as different as night and day. Lol.

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  • Bemyguest
    Master April 2017
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    Remind her that if she wouldn't be comfortable enforcing a contract with the friend, she shouldn't be using them.

    I.E. if the DJ shows up two hours late for whatever reason, with a pro there's a contract that has language to deal with that. If you wouldn't be comfortable enforcing those same policies on a friend, you shouldn't use that friend.

    I'm really #teamnofriendors. They just never work out.

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  • Keke
    Super August 2017
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    She can't take pics and be in the wedding. How is that even possible lol

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  • AMW
    Master September 2016
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    *fiancée, I don't know why I feel the need to correct that but *shrug*

    Tell her to check out WW, she might start to pick up on why friendors are bad. Let us tell her rather then you tell her, haha.

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  • Keke
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    That selfie pic is hilarious kmac

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  • FutureMrs.Sanchez
    Dedicated November 2017
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    I directed her to WW this am, lol! She wants to have a say but doesn't want to put in the work that's involved to make an educated opinion or suggestion, I think it's that most of our guests are her family she comes from a big family so she might not think it's rude to ask them but I do, my side or not I don't want any of our family having to do anything period. @Sara&L, ohh no a hell no wouldn't do lol, but she's driving me bonkers. Lol! I just don't want to cut corners to save a buck, not for this.

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  • FutureMrs.Sanchez
    Dedicated November 2017
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    @Mrs.LMac, that's so funny!

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