Ways to involve out of town mom and future mother-in-law in wedding planning?

I'm in a similar situation, and it's driving my mom nuts that she isn't closer!

You could definitely run color scheme, decor ideas, catering and alcohol options by both of them!

I’d avoid this at all costs 😂🤣 the less input from others the better. but if you’re super close to them i agree with colors and decor

It's kind that you want to involve them but at the same time, less opinions is better. It might be nice to send them updates but not actually ask for their input. Also, you could delegate them to collect addresses for family and their friends that are being invited. Honestly, I live with my mom and shes not that involved lol she knows all of the details and is aware of all my planning but me (and sometimes FH) have made all of the decisions.

If she is able to travel to your town, you can include her in the food or cake tasting. Wedding Attire or even the etiquette. If not she can be included with the bridal shower.

My mom lives in another state and she travels when she can but I always call and send photos to keep her in the loop.

If you are out of options you can ask her, where would she like to be included during the process.

I think calling them and updating them on what's going on with the wedding and life is more than enough 😊 Keep them updated on big decisions and send them pictures. Tell them how excited you are. Ask them for addresses. Ask them for opinions on centerpieces/invites/whatever. If someone in your town is throwing a shower, make sure they invite your mom and FMIL (my MIL flew into town for 48 hours for my shower). Don't delegate tasks. Unless they ask, but there's not much they can really do from afar and it will make them feel more like you're using them for work rather than sincerely involving them.

My FMIL lives locally and my mom lives across the country. Both are coming to help me pick my wedding gown this weekend As for everyday stuff, I text my mom links to potential venues and caterers.

Agree about the addresses! Such a big help!

Other than that, things such as color swatches, and whenever I see something on Pinterest that I think my mom would appreciate I share it with her.

Thanks for the great ideas, everyone!

I added my mom (out of state) to my Pinterest board, so she can send me stuff she likes for decor. I'm also going to buy my dress when she is out visiting. I gave her some DIY stuff she can do (she likes doing that) and bring when she drives out. I'd ask them to help with guest list, look at vendor websites or reviews, etc. so they are still able to help!