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Ways to incorporate a Loved one that has passed on. (my mother)

Bailee, on November 14, 2020 at 1:45 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
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Hi everyone! I’ve mentioned before that my mom passed away when I was 11 from breast cancer. I associate anything pink with her and I’m wondering what y’all think of my ideas to incorporate her?


Also let me know if you have any other ideas!! If you have any tips or have had personal experiences with this situation on how to make wedding planning easier too, that would be so incredibly helpful. I am just kind of waiting for it to get hard.
Ways to incorporate a Loved one that has passed on. (my mother) 1There is a Etsy jewelry shop that has earrings that represent and are inspired by a disease. They also donate a portion to a foundation that corresponds to that specific disease. I thought that wearing these earrings would be a really special way for her to be near me?
Ways to incorporate a Loved one that has passed on. (my mother) 2
I also love this idea and it would absolutely have to be a pink rose, of course. I have thought about putting my bouquet on her chair but I am not sure yet.
I also want to light a candle for all of our loved ones that are deceased.
My videographer has already said that no matter the venue I choose (and for no extra charge) we can run down to her grave and I could tell her how excited I am to be married and everything I would be talking to her about if she was still alive. I have also thought about doing a first look with my dad in her wedding dress even if I don’t choose to wear hers for the ceremony.
My mother was a singer. We have recordings of her singing and I felt that it would be nice to surprise my dad with her singing... it is really the only thing that my siblings and I remember clearly about her. I have also thought about playing my parents’ song.
Anyways, that’s all that I can remember of the top of my head. Thank you 💞




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Latest activity by Florida Marlins, on November 16, 2020 at 2:20 PM
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    Savvy November 2020
    Margaret ·
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    Hi Bailee!


    First off, I’m so sorry your mother cannot physically be there with you on this big day. I think all the ideas you found are beautiful ways to connect with her that day. I think it’s incredible you have recordings of her singing! How special!
    I lost my mother earlier this year and had a complete break down at the end of the night. I was lucky enough to have a copy of her heartbeat on her final day and found a website to make it into a bracelet for me. Having something more directly connected to her was really nice.
    I would definitely say highlight her recordings that day since her music is such a fond memory for you and your family and directly from her. 💕
    Margaret
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    Dedicated December 2021
    Bailee ·
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    Yes! I’m so happy I have at least a few. I wish I could find one of her singing at her wedding but I am not sure if it was even recorded. I’d have to ask my dad. I empathize with you, I am so sorry. It really just plain sucks not having her here with you. You gave me an idea to possibly have her recording in my wedding video? I’ll have to ask my videographer if that would be okay! Thank you!!
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    I think your ideas are really cute ideas!
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    Bailee ·
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    Thank you!! My hope that my day is happy and not super depressing haha but also a day to reminisce and remember!
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  • Sharon
    Expert September 2021
    Sharon ·
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    I'm so sorry you lost your mom so young! I love all of these ideas as ways to honor her, especially going with your videographer to her gravesite and talking to her about your wedding. Some may not agree but I always feel such a strong connection to loved ones at the cemetery. Could you walk down the aisle to one the recordings of her singing? Whatever you do, I know your mom will be with you and will probably send you a sign of her presence.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I'm sure it'll make your day even more special ❤️
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    Dedicated December 2021
    Bailee ·
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    Yes I agree! It has always been a place where I feel comforted and able to talk to her. I just barely thought of the recordings and I am planning on having a musician play. I might have it at the end of my father/daughter dance though!
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    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Christina ·
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    Hi. I lost my mom as well and I had a charm made in Etsy for my bouquet. It has a small picture like a locket and a little saying.

    https://etsy.me/3lBfVTW

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    Bailee ·
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    Thank you!! I’ll check it out 💕
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  • Florida Marlins
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    Florida Marlins ·
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    I wanted to respond before reading the others responses: Please so empty chair, no pictures of your late mom (I am sorry she passed too soon) as it may be (heck, it WILL be) jarring for other people and may cause them to cry. I know you miss your mom, I do, but perhaps something more private is more suited.

    In all fairness, I am not a fain of Memorial Tables. It is a wedding, not a funeral/memorial service. I was at a wedding once with a memorial table, doves released for the ones who had passed, poems for the deceased....I thought are we at a wedding or a funeral?

    Do what is best and best wishes!

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