Was i wrong for not inviting certain people?

Dang! I'm so sorry about this! I wouldn't feel bad at all! In fact, I'd take it as a dodged bullet! Who wants people like that?! I wouldn't sweat it, especially if you aren't close. I would keep the location/day on the DL though, just in case they're crashers.

View Quoted Comment Yes my wedding is already over. This all happened the next day. You’re right, I dodged a bullet. I never knew they were toxic like this but how could I have known if I didn’t have a relationship with them? I figured one of them was, but didn’t know about the rest. After this, I guess it makes me happy they weren’t there. I only wanted people there who truly care and this just proves they didn’t.

People are crazy when it comes to wedding invites! The guest list can get out of hand quickly, so I think it totally make sense to invite those whom are active in your lives! Weddings are so expensive and venues often have a limit on number of guest so a line has to be drawn. It makes sense to eliminate those you haven’t seen in many years, I don’t think you did anything wrong.

Ugh. If they responded that nasty I would be happy that I didn’t invite them.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. They showed their true colors during this time and I'd say that justifies you even more for not inviting them. Don't let their nastiness weigh down on you because you did exactly what I would've done/am doing. I have family on my mom's side that I'm not inviting simply because we never talk and I haven't seen them in over 8 years. The only relatives I'm inviting on my mom's side are my aunts and uncles. If anyone wants to pick a fight with me about that, I would simply tell them that they can't pick only the fun and happy times in my life to be a part of. I have childhood friends that I'm not inviting because I haven't seen them in forever. I 100% back your decision and again am so sorry that this happened to you. You definitely made the right decision.

This is your day, you aren't a bad person for wanting to only invite people you are more close to rather than people you share blood with.

What?! That’s ridiculous. It’s weird enough thinking they’d get an invite when you haven’t each other in years. But to chew anyone out for not being invited to their wedding is crazy immature and rude.

You did nothing wrong. 🤗

Let it roll off your back, girl. Just laugh about these emails! They're the proof in the pudding that you were right not to send them invites in the first place. Congrats on your brand new marriage!!

Why in the world would you want people like this in your life? . . . There is enough toxic waste around without deliberately bring more into your life. . . . With more normal people, it would still be fine to not invite extended family, for the first time in years, to your wedding. But ordinarily, I would say, if you feel bad about it, that is a sign that in the first year of marriage you should either make a point of visiting these people individually, find out if you have been missing something. Or hold a cookout, dinner party, open house that is specifically a family reunion type event. A time to talk and talk for hours, share pictures, see multiple generations. Something you would not have 10 minutes for at a wedding, as B and G. But after such nastiness, maybe there are some people who were silent, nothing nasty, who like you fell that the wedding was not the time and place for a reunion. Maybe make an effort with these people. And don't take nasty words from one family member to stand for all. An aunt or cousin can be nasty, but her parents, siblings, or children quite nice. I come from a huge, very close couple of families. But each has 1 or 2 households of individuals I would not tolerate as strangers, and certainly do not treat like family.

Wow, that's crazy. I'm so happy they weren't there to possibly ruin your day! I think that you are definitely right in not inviting people who you don't have contact/a relationship with. Keep your head up high! And congratulations on your marriage!!!

I think you 100% made the right choice, and their behavior proved it! Just cut those ties and enjoy your newlywed life!

You don't owe anyone an invitation to your wedding, not even family! I'm so sorry they were so rude to you and gave you such a difficult time! Nobody deserves this. Don't feel bad at all - they're in the wrong, not you!