Wanting to walk down the aisle alone...

I think you should do what makes you happy. I also have a tough relationship with my father and then also a step father and a mother who I wouldn't mind walking me down the aisle. Anyways, I have seen people walk down alone and I think you should do what makes you happy, plus you could always let your father know about the dance together and pick out a song together to make it special for him (if that's what you plan to do).

I walked down the aisle alone. I would just stop engaging in conversations about it, especially with your mom. If she asks you again, just say you’ve decided to walk alone and won’t be discussing it further. If she continues to bring it up, act like you didn’t hear a word she said and change the conversation. If she tries to call you out on it, just say “I’m not acknowledging a topic I’ve told you repeatedly is not up for discussion...” and continue to change the subject. Walk away or hang up if you have to. Most of all, don’t provide any reasoning—reasons give her something to combat and will make her feel like she can change your mind if your reasons are weak in her eyes.

I’m a former believer that it’s your day and you should do what makes you happy. Don’t try to please everyone else. Just tell your mom that you’ve made your decision and you hope she can respect it.

I walked down the aisle alone.

My mom is walking me down the aisle. I am not even inviting my father to MY special day.

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This is great advice! Good luck to you, Erika!

I walked alone too. Mostly because I didn't Wanna share an entrance ahah

Walk alone. You've said your piece and that's it. Tell them politely to please respect your decision as a grown woman and one of the only two people this wedding is for.

I don't want to deal with the hurt feelings of telling my dad he won't be walking me down even though I would prefer he didn't. I made a compromise with myself by taking out the "giving away" wording and asking my mom to walk me down with my dad.

I’ve been debating with this as well, it’s either walk by myself or with my mother as I don’t have a relationship with my father. I honestly like the idea of showing your independence, and entering a new life with your husband. I’m still not certain what to do because I don’t know if the nerves will kick in really bad as I prepare to walk down the aisle alone.

Please know that you are absolutely allowed to choose to walk alone. You don't have to justify your decision to anyone nor will it look weird or wrong to walk alone.

I am sorry your mom is pressuring you and you can't really make her stop. But you can change the subject every time she brings it up. Simply refuse to engage with her about this. Just practice smiling and nodding and asking her about the weather or what she had for lunch or what is she planning to wear to the wedding...anything.

Your wedding, your choice. Your mom nor anyone else should talk you into doing anything you don't want to. Relationship is what matters not titles, whether it's parents, grandparents, children etc.

My mom and my dad are divorced. My mom actually raised me mostly. I also felt uncomfortable with my dad, feeling like he could walk me down without my mom. So I am wishing that both my mom and dad walk me down. And both getting a dance I felt it was unfair that my mom wouldn't get her appreciation. She has put in ALOT OF HER LIFE AND TIME into my life so I feel like my mother should also be recognized. Would you consider doing something like that?

Nothing wrong with walking down on your own. I can see where it gets tricky with the whole this person is paying for this. Ugh it's hard

My hubby & I walked the aisle together.

Your situation is so similar to mine, it’s almost spooky! My father can also be very narcissistic, manipulative, and controlling. My little brother, who is 11 years younger than me, has always been his “golden child”, while he can’t seem to give me the time of day. Also like you, our situation has been noticeably better in the last 6 months or so, but I can’t ignore the past few decades worth of negativity, so I’m choosing to walk down the aisle alone. Im also not doing a father/daughter dance at the reception. I’m confident that he will complain to my mother, as he likes to pretend he’s “father of the year” in public and likes to be the center of attention, as any narcissist does, but he’ll never say a word about it to me. If it ever does come up, my only response will be that if he wanted to be a part of my wedding, he should have been more worried about being a positive part of my life leading up to it. Simple as that.

View Quoted Comment That is so weird!! My younger brother by 4 years is also my dads golden child. He is reliving through my brother and spoils him with anything but when it came to me I was never good enough. For my dad its basketball everything. Crazy how similar our situation is!!!

I am too conflicted, my dad passed decades ago, have a stepfather we are now friends but I do not want them walking me, I'm really into walking alone but now my Mother offered. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I just want everyone to have a great time.