Wanting one of my fiance's sisters as a Bridesmaid but not the other. What do I do?

Don't give in! That's when you start hearing all the bridesmaid drama stories and bride's complaining about the stupid stuff their BMs do. You chose your wedding party for a reason. You chose not to choose others for a reason. If they can't be respectful and supportive of your decision, that's their problem, not yours. Caving in is only going to create more issues for you that you're not going to want to deal with. The only people who should be happy about your wedding is you and your FH. Plan the wedding that you want that will make you happy, not the wedding that other people want you to have.

My thing is, his family is super manipulative, especially the mother and the sister I don't want to include. His mother basically told him it's either choose her or me, ALL BECAUSE WE WANTED TO GET MARRIED IN MAY... She hurt him so much by saying that and giving him that ultimatum I said screw it we are changing the date no matter how much it meant to us. So my priority is keeping him happy and away from his family's BS... But I'm noticing it's making me a little unhappy, we both are as team on this which makes it easier.. He understands me and I'm understanding him, but it's hard to keep us both happy at the same time.. Because if his family is going to guilt trip him this entire journey it's not worth it to me. But then again I'm sick and tired of their bs and trying to control us. I've already been warned by his brother in law. I work with him and he tells me all the horrific stories about the mother and sister in law we will soon to be sharing. They MANIPULATE.

For whatever reason, wedding planning seems to bring out the worst in people at times. However, since their behavior is rather "extreme" compared to what most people seem to have to deal with, and his brother-in-law is telling you horror stories, as terrible as this sounds you might have to start accepting the reality of the family that you are about to be a part of. You can't change people - this is the way they are, so you and FH are going to have to start talking about what consequences that they threaten you with are you going to be able to live with. They sound awful, and I know this may sound mean and I know they are his family so I'm sure he loves and cares about them, but it almost sounds like you would enjoy your wedding day and the whole planning process if they weren't allowed to be a part of it.

So you said you'd rather neither sister be a bm... So don't! - If you would prefer to have the one as one then make it clear to his family that you took her in because she's been so supportive for you two. - rub it in that they aren't

I agree with Jesse's girl. They sound terrible and having them involved is just going to stress you out. I also agree that you and FH have to talk about how you are going to deal with them in the future. You need to put your foot down early on or they are just going to keep bullying you for the rest of your lives.

Since the other sister is who brought it up, sit down with her and say that you understand that it would cause drama and while you "really want" her in your BP, you don't want to cause unnecessary drama and that you're not going to have either as a BM.

My FH has 3 sisters and I picked one of them.

this is your wedding and you don't have to listen to what anyone tell you to do.

I'll just choose my bridal party soon and officially ask them, and then see how things take their course... I don't even talk to the other sister, Easter she didn't say a single thing to my Fiancé and I until we left. I mean at least his other sister is super excited for us! She's trying super hard to be my MoH but I mean, at least she cares? Idk...

This is a tough one. I probably wouldn't ask either one of them to be in the BP. FH is having his 2 brothers, and I'm having 2 of my 3 sisters. My brother isn't in the wedding, and if fh had any sisters, they wouldn't be in it either. Since I can only have 2 bm, I chose the two who I'm closest with.

My other sister wants to help plan, so I'm going to let her. Maybe your fsil can be your "wedding planner"?

I wouldn't ask either of them; but it sounds like the one sister has already insinuated herself - so you will most likely have lots of drama if you extricate yourself from that one. The other sister sounds as if she doesn't really want to be there anyway, so you're off the hook. She's being manipulative and controlling. Don't play into her hands. Keep her at arms length. Any drama she may cause by not being in the bridal party would PALE in comparison to the drama she's cause by being IN the bridal party.

You have no obligation to change your wedding date to accomidate another event. You would have to accept (for some asinine reason) they wouldn't come (which doesn't make sense since you say it would be close, not on the date).

You have no obligation to cater to everyone's feeeeeelings. You will not please everyone.

Pick your bridal party according to who you want to stand with you on your wedding day