Analysa
Beginner September 2019

Want to lose weight and also be body positive!

Analysa, on September 25, 2019 at 8:31 PM Posted in Fitness and Health 2 18
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Hello all!
I recently got married and I think I looked stunning! But that little bird “society” is in the back of my mind telling me I should have tried harder to lose some weight. Does anyone ever feel like they want to lose weight, but don’t want to look back at pictures with disgust ? I always want to look at my wedding photos and love that body! But I also want to lose weight and love THAT body! How do I have both!?! Help!

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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    It's in how you feel Smiley smile you can have both bodies but not FEEL good ya know? It's in knowing that even if you weighed 200 vs 100 that you're beautiful either way.
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  • L. Madhak
    Expert October 2020
    L. Madhak ·
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    I'm a large girl and due to medical conditions, losing weight is very difficult. I decided instead on making healthier choices and trying to exercise within my capabilities, even if it's chair exercises. I'm also not going to beat myself up if I can't exercise for a few days due to nerve pain or if I don't lose a pound. My fiance loves me for me. I know I will look beautiful regardless of my weight.
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  • Analysa
    Beginner September 2019
    Analysa ·
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    Thank you for the insight! I’m stuck somewhere between trying to tune out the haters and loving myself! It seems like a battle everyday.
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  • Analysa
    Beginner September 2019
    Analysa ·
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    Hubby thinks so and Ive really been trying to be kinder to myself and let myself feel beautiful!
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  • Amanduh
    Dedicated January 2020
    Amanduh ·
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    You should love yourself and the way you look no matter your body type. Fat, skinny, short, or tall, you shouldn't make decisions about how you feel towards yourself based on what you look like, because what's inside is so much more important. Nonetheless, there's nothing wrong with losing weight and getting to be the best version of yourself. You can lose weight and still love that body from your wedding, and also recognize the hard work that you put in to reach your fitness goals.

    I would start small at first. Changing your diet is the easiest way for most people to begin their weight loss journey. There are a ton of diets out there that might work for you, however, eliminating certain foods from your life is a great place to start. Processed foods, refined grains, sugar drinks, fried food, and alcohol are all things that you should get rid of, and doing just that could catapult you into weight loss: https://www.openfit.com/5-foods-to-avoid-if-youre-trying-to-lose-weight

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I just wanted to be healthy and feel good about myself. I had gained 10+ lbs over the past two years (prior to our wedding) and I wasn't fitting in my clothes and I wasn't happy with my body. We want to start trying to have kids in 2020, our wedding was in July 2019, and we both wanted to be in our best shape and just be happy for our wedding. It wasn't really based on a number or specific look.

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  • K
    Dedicated October 2019
    Katherine ·
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    Look at it like this... you’ll never be that young again. You were beautiful and happy.

    And if that fails, remember that you found somebody who loves you as you are. If you eventually get more for it’s icing on the cake but you’re loved as you are.
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  • Analysa
    Beginner September 2019
    Analysa ·
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    I think that’s the biggest hurdle is realizing that I just need to be healthy and that’s really what matters.
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  • Analysa
    Beginner September 2019
    Analysa ·
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    That’s very true! I do keep telling myself that. It helps. All you ladies have been so helpful! Thank you!
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Yep! I didn't have a set # I wanted to get to, and neither did my husband. We just wanted to feel good about ourselves. We both lost 15 lbs over 6 months, I weighed 115 on our wedding day and he weighed 250. We've continued working out since then, but I've gained 3 or so lbs. I think my body is just happy & health at 118-122, and 115 is a little low for me. My husband has continued losing weight and is down to 240. Everyone's body is different. We just want to feel healthy and happy, be confident in ourselves, fit into our clothes, not be out of breath when we go on normal hikes, and be able to eat healthy (but not be hungry all the time).

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  • Analysa
    Beginner September 2019
    Analysa ·
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    Thank you, I had actually lost 15 pounds before my wedding but due to the way life goes I stopped with the better habits for a month or so. I’m trying to get back on it though because I did feel so much better and have so much energy.
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  • Gabrielle
    Dedicated September 2022
    Gabrielle ·
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    Baby love yourself, I am a big girl and knowing that my FH loves it makes me love it. Try out small things like walking, eating different. Do not eat out so much. It's a self conscious issue and we all go through it. Always love your body and love yourself. Congratulations on your marriage!!

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  • Amanda
    Super June 2020
    Amanda ·
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    Love yourself for the way you are meant to be!! Your body knows where it is comfortable and you'll know and feel that also. I'm about 20lbs over my comfortable body weight right now but that is due to nothing else than myself straying from my healthy eating and exercise habits. FH and myself are getting back on track with our lifestyles and losing 25lbs (me) and 40lbs (him) for our wedding next June. We will work on maintaining those weights for our health but not stress if we gain 5-8lbs after the wedding. You look beautiful and healthy in your profile picture!! Do not stress yourself out over issues that might not even be there. Congratulations on your marriage and good luck on your health and lifestyle journey!

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  • Analysa
    Beginner September 2019
    Analysa ·
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    Thank you so much!
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  • Analysa
    Beginner September 2019
    Analysa ·
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    You are absolutely right! And thank you!
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  • K
    Devoted September 2020
    Ka-Rina ·
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    In my experience nothing feels better than having accomplished a weight loss goal. I lost 30 lbs and to this day am amazed and feel great in my new and to me improved body. It doesn't mean I look back with disgust, not at all, I love pics of myself (and myself) when I was heavier but it is still amazing to feel as light and healthy as I do now.
    Also nothing is more beautiful and attractive than happiness and that's what I guess we should be on a wedding day? Smiley smile No matter the size. So def wouldn't worry about disliking your pictures.
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  • Gabrielle
    Dedicated September 2022
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    You're welcome and congratulations again!!!

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  • Tbear
    Devoted October 2019
    Tbear ·
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    My FH and I watched two friends diet and hit the gym HARDCORE for their wedding... then after the wedding they ballooned up to become larger than they were when they first started.

    My FH and I are bigger guys. We also hit the gym 4-5 times a week very consistently for the past 5+ years. We started out by freaking out about our size, then we had a frank discussion about WHY we were freaking out. Here are some points that we talked about.

    1) Fad diets will mess up your metabolism.

    2) Your worth is more than just a number on a scale! FAR more than those numbers.

    3) Think fit, not fat

    4) Think progression NOT perfection. (Progression is obtainable, perfection is not)

    5) Understand that sexiness comes in all shapes, sizes and colors.

    6) Just be the best you. All haters can go pound sand

    7) People won't remember your dress size that day but they will never forget your smiles and joy

    8) Your partner should be the only person who has any opinion that you are worried about on your wedding day. Luckily, you already know that they dig on you and your body.

    --May you conquer your fitness goals and may the joy of your day be contagious to all.

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