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Victoria
Just Said Yes May 2017

Want to include both my mom and dad's first names on wedding invite

Victoria, on November 25, 2016 at 2:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

Hello everyone! I have tried googling this with no success. I want to include both my mom and dad's first names on the wedding invite. My mom is working her butt off working two jobs and putting away every extra penny for my wedding, and I want to honor her by putting her first name on the invite too even though my mom and dad are married and have the same last name. I don't like the way "Mr and Mrs Thomas and Lucy (last name)" sounds, and I think "Mr Thomas and Mrs Lucy (last name)" also is a little winded.... is it ok to drop the formalities and just say, "Thomas and Lucy (last name)"? I mean, we're all adults here, and its family and friends invited to our wedding, and we aren't fancy or royalty lol -- so who cares if it says mr and mrs, right? What do you think? If you received an invite written like that would you criticize it?

Thank you!

9 Comments

Latest activity by Nancy, on November 26, 2016 at 4:53 PM
  • Melissa
    Master March 2018
    Melissa ·
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    What the D said... I've seen this a million times. Hard to believe google didn't deliver.

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  • Mrs.KatieK
    Master September 2016
    Mrs.KatieK ·
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    If your parents are paying, it would be worded along the lines of "Mr. and Mrs. (Last Name) request the honour of your presence at the wedding of their daughter (your name) to (FH name)."

    ETA- what the D said....

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  • Nancy Taussig
    Nancy Taussig ·
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    Or the less formal "pleasure of your company"

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  • Leanne
    VIP April 2017
    Leanne ·
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    I put first names just as the D suggested

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  • N
    Master December 2016
    Nancy ·
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    It depends on the formality of the wedding. Mr. and Mrs. John Smith is kind of outdated in everyday life but usually reserved for the formality of a wedding invitation. This is an invitation to attend a beautiful wedding.. These are your parents. I am surprised google failed you. Check with the stationer for more details. If the wedding is really fancy, you opt for the British spelling of "Honour" . It has nothing to do with the heritage of the bride or groom.... Just a bit of elegance and class.

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  • PerfectlyPolin
    VIP September 2017
    PerfectlyPolin ·
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    I agree with D

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  • NowASeptMrs
    Master September 2015
    NowASeptMrs ·
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    So why don't you want to say "Mr and Mrs Smith"? Because you'd rather your mom get more credit? I guess I don't know how you feel about taking a mans last name but personally, my husband and I share finances. Whether one of us worked extra and the other didn't, the money would still be from both of us.

    If you want to use first names I would say:

    Mr John and Mr Jan Smith

    Or John and Jan Smith

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  • NowPartyof2
    Super April 2017
    NowPartyof2 ·
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    This is what I did for mine! I mentioned both of my parents and they are divorced but have the same last name still and FH parents


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  • N
    Master December 2016
    Nancy ·
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    Not on a wedding invitation it isn't. Weddings are the last remnant of the old days.

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