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Just Said Yes February 2026

Want both dad and stepdad to walk me down the aisle but my dad has an issue with it.

Kailyn, on September 16, 2025 at 3:09 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 2

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I want both my dad and my stepdad to walk me down the aisle. I told my dad this and he has a huge issue with it. I met my stepdad when I was 8 (I’m 35 now) so he’s been a huge part of my life. He has always supported me and treated me like his own daughter. I’m definitely closer to my dad in that we talk on the phone more often, but there are also a lot of things he has done or asked of me that are upsetting and not things that my stepdad would ever do (financial schemes). I truly want both of them and I don’t know why my dad has such an issue with it. On top of that, my dad is helping a little bit with the wedding but my mom and stepdad are paying for the majority of it. I know that shouldn’t matter but it’s sort of just more of the same, of how my dad has been my whole life. Am I right to tell my dad, it’s both of them and if he has an issue then it can be just my stepdad? How do I approach this?

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Latest activity by Brittany, on October 31, 2025 at 9:50 AM

Just Said Yes June 2026
Triniti · on September 22, 2025 at 2:04 AM
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You are absolutely within your rights to want both your dad and your stepdad to walk you down the aisle. That’s your moment, your wedding and you deserve to shape it in a way that reflects your real life, your relationships, and the people who’ve shown up for you.
You’re not doing this to your dad. You’re doing this for yourself. And it’s not about diminishing his role, it’s about honoring both father figures in your life. It’s hard for some people (especially parents) to accept that love can be shared without being lessened, but that’s not your responsibility to fix.
Your dad may feel threatened, insecure, or even hurt. He may be interpreting your choice as a judgment of him, or as a signal that he wasn’t “enough.” That doesn’t mean he’s right, it just helps explain his behavior. Still, he doesn't get to make your wedding about his ego.
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Just Said Yes December 2026
Brittany · on October 31, 2025 at 9:50 AM
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Absolutely it’s your choice! If it’s truly bothering him, he needs to do some personal inventory to figure out where that feeling is coming from. This is your wedding, and if he can’t respect your wishes then he doesn’t have to be in it. It’s your day to be stress-free. If he can’t be cordial and tolerate your step-dad walking you down as well, then he can just watch from the sidelines.
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