Walking Myself Down the Aisle

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"I have also seen some weddings where the bride makes the first half of the walk by herself and meets her groom in the middle and they take the other half the walk down the isle hand in hand to the alter." I love this. This makes much more sense for us and our story. Thanks, Kayla. I think that is what we'll do--symbolizes our story much better than the traditional way.

View Quoted Comment No problem! Happy planning!!!

I don’t think it’s awkward at all. We got married at city hall and had a dinner reception after with parents and siblings only. Most of our family didn’t approve of what we were doing (my FIL even showed up 30 mins late to the ceremony at the courthouse) but our wedding is about us and we did it how was wanted to. We loved every minute of it. For my dad I did a first look with him. It turned out really great. He was really emotional about seeing me all dolled up in my dress and I’m not going to lie it made me pretty emotional too. The few pictures I’ve gotten back from the photographer have been great (I attached them)! You should maybe think about doing that. If we did a traditional wedding I would have done the same thing and my dad wouldn’t have walked me down the aisle because I’ve always invisioned walking alone. He knows that too.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for sharing your beautiful pictures ☺️ I like this idea as well—it’s a way for the dad to feel special and included as well as giving the two of you a private moment together. I think my dad would appreciate this as he is a bit shy as wel.

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It really was such a special moment. I hope you two decide to do it and I can't wait to see the pictures!

You could have your dad be a part of a father daughter dance or he can give a speech (Father of Bride usually does) if you feel comfortable with that. Some other ideas are having him read an excerpt/poem/blessing, giving him time to say a few words at a pre-wedding event like the rehearsal dinner or inviting him to one of your dress fittings. If you're comfortable with it, you can either walk down the aisle solo, or have your future spouse walk down with you if you're nervous to go it alone. Do what feels right for you - and I'm so with you about dodging the sexist traditions.

Change the wording at the end to "who accompanies this women" or "who escorts this woman to the alter" or "who stands in support of this woman's marriage to this man".. answer to all of the above is "i do". It reflects what his is actually doing: escorting you, accompanying you, supporting you. NOT GIVING YOU. I changed the wording for my ceremony. You can also have him escort you with no question asked.